7 Things New Couple Should Focus on Early in Marriage
24th June 2018
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Marriage between two lovers is a beautiful thing. It means joining two unique individuals who are in love together to live as one forever. It is way beyond cohabiting under one roof and making babies. One of the major purposes of marriage is for companionship. And that means you have to be available physically, emotionally, and otherwise for your partner always.
Always remember that marriage is for better for worse. So prepare for the good days and not-so-good days. There are some 7 things a new couple should focus on early in marriage.
1. Sex: Lots of it.
In fact, this is one reason why some are married. Most marriages end due to sexual issues. Either one person is not getting enough of it, or one person is getting it from someone else. Either way, the number one thing to focus on, as a young married couple, is sex and lots of it. With each other of course. It reinforces the pair bond you have both chosen to initiate. And it is a hell of a lot of fun when done right. Investing time into the emotional and physical components of relationships pay dividends. Sex is not just for making babies.
Talk, share, be open, honest, carry the load together. It’s a partnership. If you don’t get this right, the rest is not going to save you. The reason why most people yell in relationships is that they are emotionally distant. But knowing how to communicate early in marriage will save you a lot of headaches. Not all communications are verbal. Plus, you also have to study your partner to know how they communicate.
You need to plan everything ahead. Kids – plan how many you intend to have, finance – what to save for future projects, vacations, where to live etc. The more planning you do together, the more you are involved in each other. It becomes hard for a partner to leave after building a home.
Never forget to tell your partner I LOVE YOU every time you can. When you wake up, before you sleep, during means. It is a reassuring statement of love to your partner. Say it even if you don’t feel like it. It will save you during ‘rainy days.’
Make and take decisions together as often as possible. This way, even if your partner is not around you will know what to do in their stead.
Share responsibilities together. Though there are some roles that may be automatically taken up, there are yet others that should be done by whoever can do them better for efficiency. Plan to pick the kids up from school when you have them.
Have a common ground for everything you may likely disagree on before those situations come up. Having a common ground means dealing with and making decisions about critical issues even before they arrive. There should always be a middle ground to come to when you disagree. Let your bedroom be your supreme court to settle issues.
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