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kill your spouse

Before You Kill Your Spouse

Now that we don’t know who is more likely between men and women to kill or maim his or her spouse, we need to discuss this.

Every day, the news is awash with the news of a man killing his wife. Or a woman killing her husband. Women are getting more daring by the day. And they turn everything in the house to weapons. Frying pans, pestles, turning spatula, etc are very handy for attacking their husbands. 

A wife used a kitchen knife meant for cutting meat to slice her husband’s genitals. Could you believe that this woman forced her husband to hold his genitals as blood gushed out from his intestine like water?

The bitter wife did not see her husband as a man but an animal that should die a slow and painful death.

Another woman hired a killer to help in murdering her cheating husband at their home in Osogbo, Osun state in Nigeria. She cooked for her husband, had sex with him and made him sleep off (she confessed she had sex with him to make him very weak and sleep quickly).

As her husband was fast asleep, she brought in the killer who suffocated her husband with a pillow while she held his legs strongly so the killer could do his job easily.

A man killed his young wife out of anger. He suspected her of cheating on him. He threw her into the garden from the second floor just to make people believe she fell by accident.

And a young woman Sandra has just been sentenced to death for killing her husband in Abuja. She stabbed him seventeen times, to be sure he was very dead maybe.

Yewande Oyediran, a lawyer, killed her husband in Ibadan a few months ago. Also in Nigeria.

Akolade Arowolo who killed his banker wife and was sentenced to death by a Lagos State High Court is still awaiting his day in the Cout of Appeal. 

Lekan Sonde who killed his wife in Egbeda is waiting for the hangman to come calling.

With all these killings and gory stories, we need to ask ourselves,

“What has come over us?

Where did we get it wrong?

We were not like this before, what is happening?”


Life is so precious, you can’t give it, you are not permitted to take it. No matter your reasons for it, as soon as you take a life or become violent, you will be the guilty one. And the law will take its course against you.

What You Are Going To Lose If You Kill Your Spouse

You have many things to lose by becoming violent in your marriage. Once it leads to death or bodily harm, the whole nation will be against you. It will be you against the state. You are likely going to be killed or sentenced to life imprisonment if you kill your spouse. You will lose your life.

Before you are sentenced in court and executed, you would have spent some years in solitary confinement in the prison yard. All those who are hailing you now will not be with you. They will be against you for a fact. You will be on your own to face your foolishness alone.

As soon as you are sentenced to death, you will be taking to a condemned criminal cell. It is the most terrible place anybody can ever be. You will live in fear of the hangman for the rest of your life. You won’t know the day he will come but you know he is coming for sure.

The blood of your victim will then be in your hands and over your neck forever. What a big burden to bear. It will be on record that you are a killer, a murderer!

Your children will carry this stigma all the days of their lives. If your children’s potential inlaws get to know their background, they may ensure that that their children do not marry your children. Your Children are going to live the rest of their lives in agony.

If you kill your spouse, your children will end up losing both parents as the state will kill a killer.

Don’t allow anger, bitterness and resentment take the better of you. Don’t allow jealousy to dictate your life. Don’t permit hurt to stay in your life and ruin your destiny. Send it out.

Soon, anger will disappear when blood begins to gush out while your spouse is on the floor and a bloody knife is in your hands. The police will come calling, handcuff your hands which will be your new wristwatch as your life turns from noon to midnight. The dead will be better than you as he or she will have a place of rest and sympathy of people. But you will not have the privilege of rest or peace of mind. No!

When you kill, you murder sleep and joy. People’s curses will go with you as you step on the blood of the innocent soul that will be crying for vengeance.

Friends will desert you, your family will disown you, you will stand alone as a lawyer makes lots of money from your foolishness. Before they stop calling when they see you to the hangman. Most Lawyers won’t show up to see you off to the hangman’s workshop as you won’t live to pay them for that service. You know lawyers and fees, so you are on your own. Only a priest who you’d meet for the first and only time will be called to lead you on the journey your stupidity and volatility ignited.

Regret, regret and regret will be your companion as the rope snuffs out your precious life from you because of your lack of discretion.

Nothing, I mean nothing is worth the life of anybody. Don’t take it because you will not have a hiding place, the law will call on you.

Read, this over again and never go near your kitchen when you are angry. Don’t use the kitchen tools as your ballistic missile to destroy someone you once said you loved.

When marriage is hurting, talk to experts who will help you to handle the situation. Your F.F.F will not be helpful at this time. They will fuel the fire the more. F.F.F means Family Members, Friends and Fans.

Look for help in the right quarters before you end up killing somebody and hurting yourself. If you are being hurt and feeling murderous, speak out now and seek help. If your spouse is hurting you deeply, seek help, not weapons.

Please share this for all to see, let’s stop these incessant killings. Let love lead the way no matter how hurt we feel. 

Written by Bisi Adewale

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sex and mental health

Sex and Mental Health


Without regular sex, women risk mental disorder –A psychiatrist Dr Maymunah Kadiri said. She advised married women to have regular sex with their spouses in order to prevent depression and be happy.

Depression is a common mental disorder that causes people to experience depressed mood. There is also loss of interest or pleasure, feelings of guilt or low self-worth, disturbed sleep or appetite, low energy, and poor concentration.

Kadiri, the Medical Director of Pinnacle Medical Services gave the advice in an interview with the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Lagos. Pinnacle is a health and wellness centre for psychological, behavioural, and mental health-related issues.

According to her, sex is not just to nourish a woman’s body, but it is also beneficial to her mental health.

“As women, there is a need for us to make our spouses our best friends if we want to be mentally healthy.

“Studies have shown that women who have more active sex and in long term relationships were less likely to be depressed than women who went without sex.

“So, more sex is important and essential. It is a remedy to curing women from having persistent headache.

“Low sexual drive, which leads to depression, should be looked into. A woman can be depressed when that sexual drive that she used to have is no more there.

“Frequent active sex can play good roles toward women’s sense of well being and quality of life,’’ Kadiri said.

She explained that sex was not just for procreation and to have children, adding that it could create bonding, good companionship and sound sleep.

Kadiri, popularly called ‘celebrity shrink’, urged women dealing with depression to frequently indulge in sex, while boosting their self-esteem.

She also advised women who are over-weight to also involve in active sex, saying doing so will boost endorphins which are happy hormones.

“The happy hormones will make them lose some calories as well as sleep better. Orgasms trigger the release of endorphins which are happy hormones secreted by the brain that act as effective painkillers,’’ she said. Because sex and mental health go hand in hand.

She added that sex was not only beneficial to the men but especially to women because it was capable of freeing them from stress.

Sex accordingly. (For married ones only). A lot of people see sex as a taboo.

Sex is holy within marriage, and there is no prescribed style.

“Not discussing sex in a relationship leads to divorce! I have counselled women who’ve complained: my husband treats me as if I were his sister. There was one who told me: I am tired of getting sex fortnightly, like a salary.”

I told her she was lucky to be getting sex fortnightly, since some wives only get it on big days, like elections and public holidays.

Wives have become very frigid and even sleep with their panties. If you’re a married woman, you should sleep naked and let your bum touch your husband.

Today you find men going out of their way to get a glimpse of a vagina. They page through magazines and even go to lingerie departments in stores hoping to see what’s hidden under panties because their wives hide it from them.

Marriage is about being free with your body in front of your partner, that’s why God made marriage.

A woman should parade naked and do some modelling to tempt her husband. There are many married women who don’t know what their husband’s penises look like. She only feels it when he enters her. They’ve never touched it, let alone seen it because the husband switches off the lights before undressing. A penis is a wife’s toy – she is supposed to play with it.

I blame couples for not making time for sex and complaining about being tired after a day’s work. You find many couples who’ve been sexually starved for years. God created sex for procreation and also for pleasure. You can’t marry and not have a good time in bed.


Why can’t you drive home during lunch and have a quickie with your wife? We’re all equal in sex – it’s not just about a woman satisfying a man. You have to satisfy each other. Have you ever seen a woman who has been satisfied? Have you noticed how she glows and becomes energetic?

This is the Whole Truth, Nothing But The Truth. Once you read this you have to keep it going. Age has nothing to do with sex. The older you are the more you should enjoy it.

You may just be saving a marriage from divorce if you share this to the people who need it.

Let LOVE & SEX fill our marriage. Sex is good for your mental health. Sex and mental health are connected.


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