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Happy International Men’s Day

[dropcap]F[/dropcap]irst conceived in the February of 1991, the project of International Men’s Day was inaugurated a year later– in February 1992. The project of International Men’s Day was revived in 1999 in the Caribbean islands of Trinidad and Tobago.

Jerome Teelucksing, a doctor from Trinidad and Tobago, chose November 19 to celebrate International Men’s Day in honour of his father’s birthday. International Men’s Day, Dr Teelucksingh believed, is not just a gendered day but an event to address issues relating to men and boys.

This day also aims to celebrate “invisible” men who positively influence their gender, are inspiring role models for boys and try to raise awareness of men’s mental health.

International Men’s Day tries to create a conversation around things like mental health, toxic masculinity and the prevalence of male suicide.

International Men’s Day also explores issues like real-life options, poverty, hunger, homelessness, fatherlessness, parental alienation, mass incarceration, religious and ethnic intolerance which may prevent men and boys from living healthier, purpose-driven, and longer lives.

Who is the real MAN to be celebrated on International Men’s day?

A man is one of the most vital parts of God’s creation.

He sacrifices his dreams for just a smile on his parents’ face.

He spends his entire pocket money on buying gifts for the lady he loves, just to see her smiling.

He sacrifices his full youth for his wife & children by working late at night without any complaint.

He builds their future by taking loans from banks & repaying them for his entire lifetime.

He struggles a lot & still has to bear scolding from his mother, wife and boss.

His life ends up only by compromising for others’ happiness.

If he goes out, he is careless.

If he stays at home, he is lazy.

If he scolds his children, he is a monster.

If he doesn’t scold them, he is an irresponsible man.

If he stops his wife from working, then he is an insecure man.

If he doesn’t stop his wife from working, then he is somebody who lives on his wife’s earnings.

If he listens to mom, he is mama’s boy.

If he listens to his wife, he is, his wife’s slave.

If he does not play he is too serious, stern and stiff.

If he plays, he is a joker who never matures.

If he dresses well, he is extravagant and a possible womanizer. If he doesn’t dress well, he is a loser who is not a gentleman.

Respect every male in your life. You will never know what he has sacrificed for you.

Happy International Men’s day!!!

So, today is a good day to make a difference in this world on International Men’s Day. Be more empathetic and open in understanding gender. Be a man for a day and see what it is like?

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Signs of a Man’s Immaturity in Marriage

[dropcap]M[/dropcap]arriage is about love, and tolerance. But there are things men  do in marriages that show signs of a man’s immaturity in marriage. A married couple should be complementary to each other for peace to reign. The signs of a man’s immaturity show when he repeatedly does some of these things to the wife in a marriage:

1. Rejecting Food When There’s an Issue

Rejecting your wive’s food is a sign of immaturity in a marriage. Grow up! The only time you should reject food is when it is poisoned. You should not even abandon your home for any reason. You could go somewhere when angry. But ensure that you don’t allow it to linger unnecessarily because that is enough for the devil to build on even though some women can be really troublesome. You bought the food anyway. When you start eating out, you may continue and your wife may think there is another woman. The way your wife gets to your heart is your stomach. Allow her to apologize with her cooking.

2. Reminding your wife that you are the head

Your wife already knows this. Only an inferior-thinking man will tell the wife always that he is the head. When your wife disobeys/ disrespect you she still knows that you are the head. You need not shout or scream it daily. It’s important for you to know when and how to be firm and put your feet down over issues. However don’t become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head. Be the head and you don’t have to remind her.

3. Wife Abuse/Beating

Beating, verbally abusing your wife, issuing threats of divorce or bragging about marrying another wife does not make you a man. An EMPTY barrel makes the loudest noise. Your strength is in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist. When she is acting her “childish woman” part, play the “matured man.” Don’t make her feel bad. Honouring your wife means treating her like a queen even when she may not deserve it.

Other Signs of a Man’s Immaturity in Marriage…

4. Reporting Your Wife to Friends and Family

When your wife offends you, correct and talk things through. You don’t have to tell everyone about her mistakes. That will paint her black and sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back. It will make people disrespect you thinking you can’t run a home and your issues efficiently.

5. Keeping Malice

Is it not funny to know that some men keep malice? Some of them even nag, abuse and call their wives names in public. Don’t let the sun go down without forgiving your spouse for anything you hold against her. It will only make your prayers unanswered.

Read also Why Men Seem to Die Earlier Than Women

6. Not Helping with Chores

The wife is the home builder and keeper. However, it’s not a bad thing if a man lends a helping hand when necessary. Watching football with newspaper in your hand every evening, not caring how stressful the house chores are will only increase the pressure on your wife. And if you truly care you’ll help, just checking on her while busy could encourage and sooth her, this also makes you a good example to the kids especially the boys. Help out with anything you can. Make out time. Some men don’t even say “thank You” to their wives after eating. This may not be one of the signs of a man’s immaturity in marriage if there is already a maid or help who helps out.

7. Cheating

Cheating is another sign of a man’s immaturity in marriage.  Whatever you can get outside you can get inside and even much more for free. The worst part is that many claim that it is in men nature to cheat. Lies! The ability to not cheat is self control. And that is what makes you a man. Don’t cheat on your beloved. She should be your one and only…

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Why Men Seem to Die Earlier Than Women

[dropcap]Y[/dropcap]ou may not have noticed or thought about it but it doesn’t just seem so; it is actually so. Men are really dying by the day.

Though women experience higher stress levels and are more prone to depression and anxiety… Women earn less than men, and in many countries. They don’t have the same human rights as men. Despite the social inequality women in the society, they live longer than men. This is a peculiar case all over the world. How come?

Traditionally, the difference in life expectancy between the sexes is usually blamed on the greater and goofier risks taken by men – in terms of accidents, illnesses, and other goofy acts linked to lifestyles that lead to fatal injuries, heart disease, and cancer. High testosterone levels are associated with risk-taking and aggression in younger males and with heart disease and prostate cancer in later life.

The biological advantage that women have has also been that during birth, male-child mortality is higher at birth. And more generally, the genetic difference between the male and female sexes is that women stand a better resistance to biological ageing. Women are found to produce more infection-fighting white blood cells than men of the same age. Another reason why men seem to die earlier too. They can’t withstand the stress internally for too long and let it out effectively.

Other Reasons Why Men Seem to Die Earlier Than Women

Women cry and let it go. Not men or boys. “Big boys don’t cry.” They hold it in until it kills them

Men don’t MENstruate! They don’t lose blood often enough to get refreshed. Losing or donating blood rejuvenates. And since women menstruate they have an edge over men who use same old blood till death.

Men by far outnumber women in some of the riskiest occupations, including military combat, firefighting, and working at like construction sites. The risks and hazards associated with the job is why men seem to die earlier than women.

Men die of heart diseases and attacks more often and at a younger age. This can be attributed in a way to too much thinking.

It is said that men commit suicide more often than women. Well, not black men and especially not Nigerian men.

A man will die several deaths before he goes to the hospital for checkup. Except he is taken in unconscious. Most men keep the health problem of especially prostrate to themselves till it becomes critical. They’d rather die many times than allow a doctor finger their bum checking for a healthy prostate.

Most women are married to men older than them. So naturally, they die before their younger wives. In most cases it better comparatively as the women are better caretakers of the home than men. And honestly, women care for children more than men.

‘Na woman go kill you!’…some have been told. But finally, something kills a man.

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