Category: Parenting

a parent's influence

A Parent’s Influence

A father’s or a parent’s influence goes to the fourth generation after him. Whitney Houston’s parents Emily and John Houston divorced when she was at kindergarten.

And together with her lover, Bobby Brown, Whitney smoked crack in the presence of their 5-year-old daughter, Bobbi Kristina.

At 22, Bobbi died of drug abuse. Her mother Whitney died at 48 on similar grounds. Great careers and more importantly, great lives lost due to weak fatherhood.

While there is little we can do about our ancestors, there is something that we can do about your descendants. One thing that prevents a man from being a good father is that he hasn’t completed being a boy. To be in your children’s’ memory tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today.

Having children doesn’t make you a father. Raising them does. Because a parent’s influence cannot be underestimated. 

There are many who were raised up in unstable families. But didn’t pass it on to our children. We don’t have to fight in the presence of our children. We can choose to shield their emotions from our disputes as adults. To a large extent, you are a product of your early relationships. 

Unstable parents create insecure children. Stable parents raise stable children. Children need affection (hugs,), attention (listening) and affirmation (positive words), every day. When a man loves his wife, it creates security and stability. The best gift a father can give his children is to love their mother. Children learn how to handle feelings, loses, failure and conflicts at home.

Regrettably, parenting can neither be delegated nor suspended for a while as we work for the ring of fame and fortune. The growth of children is irreversible. As a young tree, it takes the bends directed by the gardener, so is the life of a child. You can’t shape it in adulthood; you can’t pick it from where you left after you reach the top in your career pursuits.

It’s always easier to model young boys than to rehabilitate grown-up men.

If you invest in your child, you don’t have to invest for your child.

Children require presence not presents. No amount of gifts and meeting financial obligations can replace your personal presence. Any written will can be torn in a few years after the demise of the writer of the will. The only sure inheritance that you can leave behind is the investment you make in your child, not for your child.

More important, We also have to pray for our children against peer pressure and external influence.

What influence do you (intend to) have on your children? How will it affect their future? Leave comments below the post to share your thoughts. 

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when babies start eating

When Babies Start Eating Solid Food

When can babies start eating solid food?

At what age can babies be able to digest solid food? Are they old enough to be weaned? Or they just don’t have a mother to breastfeed them?

Feeding your baby his or her first solid food is a major milestone. But even if it is time, are they ready to start on solid food?

Exclusive breastfeeding for the first 6 months after birth is highly recommended. In the absence of breastmilk, baby formula is the only food your newborn needs

But by ages 4 months to 6 months, most babies are ready to begin eating solid foods as a complement to breastfeeding or formula. Babies begin to develop the coordination to move solid food from the front of the mouth to the back for swallowing.

The switch from liquid and semi-solid to solid food is a gradual process.

  • Start simple: Offer single-ingredient foods that contain no sugar or salt.
    Wait three to five days between each new food to see if your baby has a reaction, such as diarrhoea, a rash or vomiting.
  • Important nutrients: Iron and zinc are important nutrients in the second half of your baby’s first year. These nutrients are found in pureed meats and single-grain, iron-fortified cereal.
  • Baby cereal basics: Mix 1 tablespoon of a single-grain, iron-fortified baby cereal with 4 tablespoons of breast milk. Help your baby sit upright and offer the cereal with a small spoon once or twice a day after a bottle- or breast-feeding. Once your baby gets the hang of swallowing runny cereal, mix it with less liquid and gradually increase the serving sizes.
  • Add vegetables and fruits: Gradually introduce single-ingredient pureed vegetables and fruits that contain no sugar or salt. Wait three to five days between each new food.

By ages 8 – 10 months, most babies can handle small portions of finely chopped finger foods, such as soft fruits, vegetables, pasta, cheese, well-cooked meat, baby crackers and dry cereal.

Babies may reject their first servings of pureed foods because the taste and texture are new. If your baby refuses the feeding, don’t force it. Try again some other time. If the challenge continues, talk to your baby’s doctor to make sure the resistance isn’t a sign of a problem.

Is it possible for the baby to have food allergies?

It is possible to notice that a baby has an allergy when they start eating solid food. Postponing the introduction of highly allergenic foods, such as peanuts, eggs and fish, hasn’t been shown to prevent eczema, asthma, allergic rhinitis and food allergy. In fact, early introduction of certain foods, such as peanuts and eggs, might decrease the risk of allergy to that food.

Still, especially if any close relatives have a food allergy, give your child his or her first taste of a highly allergenic food at home — rather than at a restaurant — with an oral antihistamine available. If there’s no reaction, the food can be introduced in gradually increasing amounts.

Don’t give juice to your baby until after age 1. It can lead to diarrhoea and even tooth decay.

Know what’s off-limits

Certain foods aren’t appropriate for babies. Consider these guidelines:

  • Don’t offer cow’s milk or honey before age 1. Cow’s milk doesn’t meet an infant’s nutritional needs — it isn’t a good source of iron — and can increase the risk of iron deficiency. Honey might contain spores that can cause a serious illness known as infant botulism.
  • Don’t offer foods that can cause your baby to choke. As your baby progresses in eating solid foods, don’t offer hot dogs, chunks of meat or cheese, grapes, raw vegetables, or fruit chunks, unless they’re cut up into small pieces. Also, don’t offer hard foods, such as seeds, nuts, popcorn and hard candy that can’t be changed to make them safe options. Other high-risk foods include peanut butter and marshmallows.

Another reason to avoid giving your baby solid food before age 4 months is the risk associated with certain home-prepared foods. A baby younger than age 4 months shouldn’t be given home-prepared spinach, beets, carrots, green beans or squash. These foods might contain enough nitrates to cause blood disorder methemoglobinemia.

What to do when babies start eating solid food

During feedings, talk to your baby and help him or her through the process. To make mealtime enjoyable:

  • Stay seated. As soon as your baby can sit easily without support, use a highchair with a broad, stable base. Buckle the safety straps.
  • Encourage exploration. Your baby is likely to play with his or her food. Make sure that finger foods are soft, easy to swallow and broken down into small pieces.
  • Introduce utensils. Offer your baby a spoon to hold while you feed him or her with another spoon. As your baby’s dexterity improves, encourage your baby to use a spoon.
  • Use a cup. Feeding your baby breast milk or formula from a cup at mealtimes can help pave the way for weaning from a bottle. Around age 9 months, your baby might be able to drink from a cup on his or her own.
  • If you feed your baby directly from a jar or container, saliva on the spoon can quickly spoil leftovers. Instead, place servings in a dish. Opened jars of baby food can be safely refrigerated for two to three days.
  • If your baby turns away from a new food, don’t push. Simply try again another time. Repeated exposure can create variety in your baby’s diet.
  • When your baby has had enough to eat, he or she might cry or turn away. Don’t force extra bites. As long as your baby’s growth is on target, he or she is likely getting enough to eat. Also, don’t try to get your baby to eat as much as possible at bedtime to get him or her to sleep through the night. There’s no evidence that this works.

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When Babies Start Walking

Have you ever wondered when babies can actually start walking? 

Those tiny little steps are really a precious moment for any parent to witness. So when do you catch your baby taking those precious steps? Continue reading “When Babies Start Walking”

sex and mental health

Sex and Mental Health

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Without regular sex, women risk mental disorder –A psychiatrist Dr Maymunah Kadiri said. She advised married women to have regular sex with their spouses in order to prevent depression and be happy.

Depression is a common mental disorder that causes people to experience depressed mood. There is also loss of interest or pleasure, feelings of guilt or low self-worth, disturbed sleep or appetite, low energy, and poor concentration.

Kadiri, the Medical Director of Pinnacle Medical Services gave the advice in an interview with the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Lagos. Pinnacle is a health and wellness centre for psychological, behavioural, and mental health-related issues.

According to her, sex is not just to nourish a woman’s body, but it is also beneficial to her mental health.

“As women, there is a need for us to make our spouses our best friends if we want to be mentally healthy.

“Studies have shown that women who have more active sex and in long term relationships were less likely to be depressed than women who went without sex.

“So, more sex is important and essential. It is a remedy to curing women from having persistent headache.

“Low sexual drive, which leads to depression, should be looked into. A woman can be depressed when that sexual drive that she used to have is no more there.

“Frequent active sex can play good roles toward women’s sense of well being and quality of life,’’ Kadiri said.

She explained that sex was not just for procreation and to have children, adding that it could create bonding, good companionship and sound sleep.

Kadiri, popularly called ‘celebrity shrink’, urged women dealing with depression to frequently indulge in sex, while boosting their self-esteem.

She also advised women who are over-weight to also involve in active sex, saying doing so will boost endorphins which are happy hormones.

“The happy hormones will make them lose some calories as well as sleep better. Orgasms trigger the release of endorphins which are happy hormones secreted by the brain that act as effective painkillers,’’ she said. Because sex and mental health go hand in hand.

She added that sex was not only beneficial to the men but especially to women because it was capable of freeing them from stress.

Sex accordingly. (For married ones only). A lot of people see sex as a taboo.

Sex is holy within marriage, and there is no prescribed style.

“Not discussing sex in a relationship leads to divorce! I have counselled women who’ve complained: my husband treats me as if I were his sister. There was one who told me: I am tired of getting sex fortnightly, like a salary.”

I told her she was lucky to be getting sex fortnightly, since some wives only get it on big days, like elections and public holidays.

Wives have become very frigid and even sleep with their panties. If you’re a married woman, you should sleep naked and let your bum touch your husband.

Today you find men going out of their way to get a glimpse of a vagina. They page through magazines and even go to lingerie departments in stores hoping to see what’s hidden under panties because their wives hide it from them.

Marriage is about being free with your body in front of your partner, that’s why God made marriage.

A woman should parade naked and do some modelling to tempt her husband. There are many married women who don’t know what their husband’s penises look like. She only feels it when he enters her. They’ve never touched it, let alone seen it because the husband switches off the lights before undressing. A penis is a wife’s toy – she is supposed to play with it.

I blame couples for not making time for sex and complaining about being tired after a day’s work. You find many couples who’ve been sexually starved for years. God created sex for procreation and also for pleasure. You can’t marry and not have a good time in bed.

WHO SAID YOU CAN ONLY HAVE SEX AT NIGHT?

Why can’t you drive home during lunch and have a quickie with your wife? We’re all equal in sex – it’s not just about a woman satisfying a man. You have to satisfy each other. Have you ever seen a woman who has been satisfied? Have you noticed how she glows and becomes energetic?

This is the Whole Truth, Nothing But The Truth. Once you read this you have to keep it going. Age has nothing to do with sex. The older you are the more you should enjoy it.

You may just be saving a marriage from divorce if you share this to the people who need it.

Let LOVE & SEX fill our marriage. Sex is good for your mental health. Sex and mental health are connected.

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when babies start talking

When Babies Start Talking

When will my baby start talking? Most parents are anxious about this…

They already hear you talk from when they were in the womb.

The first thing babies do when born is they cry loudly. Except the baby has a tongue-tie.

With time they are able to express themselves more.  Just like crawling turns walking. When babies start talking they go from babbling gibberish, they begin mouthing meaningful words like ‘dada’ or ‘mama’

A baby may use either verbal or non-verbal queues. or even both to express happiness or discomfort.

Usually, girl babies start talking before male babies.

Newborns can recognize the mother’s voice.

From 1 month to when they are 4 months they can smile and cry, turn their heads when they hear sounds or follow movements.

From five to eight months they can play efficiently with toys and their monosyllabic speeches become disyllabic. They coo, ooh, and aah very well.

From nine to twelve months most kids can call dada or mama already.

Some babies may delay their first real words but can and will surprise parents when they do speak. They may also be delayed language development. But you can visit the doctor for assurance.

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