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Wife Seeks Divorce From Husband Over Drunkenness

wife seeks divorce from husband over drunkenness

A housewife in Abuja begged a Kubwa Grade 1 Area Court to dissolve her marriage. This is due to her husband’s drunkenness, refusal to pray, and battery. So, she wants divorce.

Angyan told the court that she got married to Abdullahi 30 years ago. And the marriage has produced six children. The wife said Abdullahi formed the habit of drinking beer and refuses to perform the five times obligatory Islamic prayers.

She added that her husband also refused to observe the just-concluded Ramadan fast. ‎“Whenever he is drunk, he engages me in physical fight. And beats me up mercilessly,” she said. However, she prayed the court to dissolve her marriage. This is on the grounds of his drunkenness, refusal to pray and constant beating. She wants to divorce him for these reasons.

Abdullahi who is a cleaner in Abuja, pleaded guilty. He said that he would write an undertaking to stop drinking.‎ He also said he would share his salary into two, keep half of it to himself and give the other half to his wife for upkeep.

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Signs of a Man’s Immaturity in Marriage

signs of a man's immaturity in marriage

Marriage is about love, and tolerance. But there are things men  do in marriages that show signs of a man’s immaturity in marriage. A married couple should be complementary to each other for peace to reign. The signs of a man’s immaturity show when he repeatedly does some of these things to the wife in a marriage:

1. Rejecting Food When There’s an Issue

Rejecting your wive’s food is a sign of immaturity in a marriage. Grow up! The only time you should reject food is when it is poisoned. You should not even abandon your home for any reason. You could go somewhere when angry. But ensure that you don’t allow it to linger unnecessarily because that is enough for the devil to build on even though some women can be really troublesome. You bought the food anyway. When you start eating out, you may continue and your wife may think there is another woman. The way your wife gets to your heart is your stomach. Allow her to apologize with her cooking.

2. Reminding your wife that you are the head

Your wife already knows this. Only an inferior-thinking man will tell the wife always that he is the head. When your wife disobeys/ disrespect you she still knows that you are the head. You need not shout or scream it daily. It’s important for you to know when and how to be firm and put your feet down over issues. However don’t become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head. Be the head and you don’t have to remind her.

3. Wife Abuse/Beating

Beating, verbally abusing your wife, issuing threats of divorce or bragging about marrying another wife does not make you a man. An EMPTY barrel makes the loudest noise. Your strength is in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist. When she is acting her “childish woman” part, play the “matured man.” Don’t make her feel bad. Honouring your wife means treating her like a queen even when she may not deserve it.

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4. Reporting Your Wife to Friends and Family

When your wife offends you, correct and talk things through. You don’t have to tell everyone about her mistakes. That will paint her black and sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back. It will make people disrespect you thinking you can’t run a home and your issues efficiently.

5. Keeping Malice

Is it not funny to know that some men keep malice? Some of them even nag, abuse and call their wives names in public. Don’t let the sun go down without forgiving your spouse for anything you hold against her. It will only make your prayers unanswered.

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6. Not Helping with Chores

The wife is the home builder and keeper. However, it’s not a bad thing if a man lends a helping hand when necessary. Watching football with newspaper in your hand every evening, not caring how stressful the house chores are will only increase the pressure on your wife. And if you truly care you’ll help, just checking on her while busy could encourage and sooth her, this also makes you a good example to the kids especially the boys. Help out with anything you can. Make out time. Some men don’t even say “thank You” to their wives after eating. This may not be one of the signs of a man’s immaturity in marriage if there is already a maid or help who helps out.

7. Cheating

Cheating is another sign of a man’s immaturity in marriage.  Whatever you can get outside you can get inside and even much more for free. The worst part is that many claim that it is in men nature to cheat. Lies! The ability to not cheat is self control. And that is what makes you a man. Don’t cheat on your beloved. She should be your one and only…

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