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Lessons President Xi Jingping Learnt from His Father

lessons xi jinping learnt from his father

Three powerful lessons Xi Jinping learnt from his father Xi Zhongxun. 

He narrated the story of growing up thus:

As a small child , I was very selfish, always grabbing the best for myself.

Slowly, everyone left me and I had no friends. I didn’t think it was my fault and I criticized others.

But my father gave me 3 sentences to help me in life.

One day, my father cooked 2 bowls of noodles and  put them on the table.
One had an egg on top while the other bowl had none on top.

Then he asked me to choose a bowl of noodles.

Because eggs were hard to come by those days, I chose the bowl with egg!

I was congratulating myself on my wise choice/decision and decided to wallop the egg. To my surprise my father’s bowl of noodles had two eggs at the bottom of his bowl beneath the noodles!

With much regret, I scolded myself for being too hasty in my decision.

My father smiled and taught me the first lesson to remember that, “what your eyes see may not be true.”

He added that, “If you make a habit of taking advantage of people, you will end up losing.”

The next day, my father again cooked 2 bowls of noodles: one bowl with an egg on top and the other bowl with no egg on top.

Again, he asked to choose the bowl I wanted.

This time I felt smarter so I chose the bowl without any egg on top.

Hmmm. To my surprise, there was not even a single egg at the bottom of the bowl!

Again, my father smiled and said to me, “My child, you must not always rely on experiences because sometimes, life can cheat you or play tricks on you“.

Never  be too annoyed or sad with situations. Just treat experience as learning a lesson experience that cannot be gotten from any textbooks.

The third day, my father again cooked 2 bowls of noodles: one bowl with an egg on top and the other with no egg on top.

He asked me to choose the bowl I wanted.

But  this time, I told my father, “Dad, you choose first. You are the head of the family and you contribute the most to the family.

My father was happy to choose for me.

He chose the bowl with one egg on top. But as I ate my bowl of noodles, to my surprise There were two eggs at the bottom of the bowl.

My father smiled at me with love in his eyes, he said “my child, you must remember that when you think for the good of others, good things will always naturally happen to you.”

I always remember these 3 sentences of my father.

Xi Jinping.

So what were the lessons in the story?

  1. What your eyes see may not be true
  2. You must not always rely on experiences because sometimes, life can cheat you or play tricks on you
  3. You must remember that when you think for the good of others, good things will always naturally happen to you.

As a father, mother, guardian, teacher or a child’s caretaker how do you use simple everyday life happenings and activities to teach your ward/child? 

Do you make them memorable? Do you also see to it that they learn the morals of the story/experience? 

Share with us how you teach and train your child in the comment box below.

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My Brother: A Poem

my brother

I met a girl. She became my friend. Then my lover. Then my best friend and my lover. I thought we would marry one day.
Now we don’t speak anymore

I know a boy. We played in school. We were inseparable. As brothers. Time passed. We changed.
Now we don’t speak anymore

I met a man. We traveled together. 6 weeks. 18-24 hours a day, 7 days a week we spent together. He knows my darkest secrets. Our travels finished
Now we don’t speak anymore

I had a friend. We lived together for 2 years. Laugh together a lot. We left university. Had the best of intentions to keep close. Life got in the way
Now we barely speak anymore

I met a boy. We don’t speak so often. Not every day, sometimes not even every week. Time will pass and we will drift, apart then together, apart than together; caught in an eternal drift.

He knew the girl that was my lover
Knew the boy who was my play mate

He knew the man I traveled with
Also knew the friend I lived with

He’s seen them come. He’s seen them go. He’ll see them come, he’ll see them go.

That boy is my brother

Time has taught me and life has shown me – he’ll be by my side forever.

Because he’s my brother…

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The Essence of Family

The Essence of Family

The essence of family is beyond being related by blood. Its meaning is beyond bearing the same surname.

Family is beyond the nuclear and extended family settings. The essence covers more than the family you are building or the one you come from.

What then is really the essence of family?

Family is not important. Family is everything – Michael J. Fox

Family understands you. It is your clan. Family is home and it is where the heart is. It is that place where we can be and do us. We can take our shoes off, kick back and relax. We can struggle for position, power, and money outside but not at home. It is where you are most welcome because you fit in. The family is there to hold your hand both in good and trying times; family is support.

Family is a complementary blend of different people. It is a unity of different people in spite of diversity. A strong nation and team bound by love is a family. Being a family unites and binds people. The essence of family is to be one. It is one thing we don’t have and at the same time have the privilege of choosing in life.

Family may not be on the same tree but may bear similar kind of fruit.

Furthermore, the family is where we learn good behavior and courtesy in private before public show. We can make mistakes here and be corrected over and over again. It’s just Us, so we can breathe and take it easy. This is where the impact on society is learned whether good or bad. This is where character is formed.

Unconditional acceptance is the essence of family. In the biological family setting, you don’t have to do anything to be born into a family. You’re just born a member and belong there. Whether born blind, deaf, mute, deformed or not…you’re family.

The essence of family is lifelong connectedness and accountability. For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health. Family is the place where we are always connected until death part us. It is where we are always accountable knowing that certain actions will make the other person or people feel a certain way. Family is where we live with our own and each other’s mistakes and losses. Bad marriages, failed businesses, loss of property or life – all these are family matters. This is where we learn responsibility and express love as charity begins at home.

Our family is also a source of motivation. It is not only a place we come into the world through. But a place we also go out into the world from to represent and make proud. From our first day of school to our first job to our roles in the society and the world, the family is the cheer-group that tells us “You can do it!” It believes in, nurtures, disciplines, and sets us up – all towards making us the best. It’s the job of the family to churn out responsible people. The family is why we are out there hustling.

Acceptance, sense of belonging, connectedness, unity in diversity, responsibility, at-homeness, and more… – these are the essence of family. Being able to have a bond beyond blood relations is the essence of family.

And ultimately, it is in being part of the human family that we will realize our shared dream of peace on earth.

Good relationships are also the essence of family. Being able to also relate to others within and outside our homes is key. Family is loyalty; a form of brotherhood. The essence of family is identity;  knowing that you belong somewhere and will always be there for one another.

The essence of family is love, sharing, giving, and forgiving.

Lastly here, the family is an arena that teaches us life lessons and prepares us for life. From ethics to manners, to how we conduct ourselves, and etiquettes. This is where we learn to interact with others before we go out into the real world. This is where we learn family-building to subsequently build ours.

Some see only the action in the Fast and Furious series. Others see a family. What does family mean to you? Share with us in the comments space below and share with someone who means family to you.

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Welcome to NaijaFamilyBlog

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NAIJAFAMILYBLOG

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Hello world! Welcome to NaijaFamilyBlog! This is Nigeria’s number one family, parenting, and relationship site.

Relationships lead to partnerships and even wedding that lead to building a family with the addition of little ones subsequently…

And this is the smallest unit of every society. So, with healthier families, we can build happier societies. You can start with our first article, The Essence of Family.

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