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Category Archives: Married

7 Things New Couple Should Focus on Early in Marriage

focus on early in marriage

There are some things new couple need to focus on early in marriage.

Marriage between two lovers is a beautiful thing. It means joining two unique individuals who are in love together to live as one forever. It is way beyond cohabiting under one roof and making babies. One of the major purposes of marriage is for companionship. And that means you have to be available physically, emotionally, and otherwise for your partner always.

Always remember that marriage is for better for worse. So prepare for the good days and not-so-good days. There are some 7 things new couple should focus on early in marriage.

1. Sex: Lots of it.

In fact, this is one reason why some are married. Most marriages end due to sexual issues. Either one person is not getting enough of it, or one person is getting it from someone else. Either way, the number one thing to focus on, as a young married couple, is sex and lots of it. With each other of course. It reinforces the pair bond you have both chosen to initiate. And it is a hell of a lot of fun when done right. Investing time into the emotional and physical components of relationships pay dividends. Sex is not just for making babies.

Communicate

Talk, share, be open, honest, carry the load to together. It’s a partnership. If you don’t get this right, the rest is not going to save you. The reason why most people yell in relationships is because they are emotionally distant. But knowing how to communicate early in marriage will save you a lot of headache. Not all communications are verbal. Plus, you also have to study your partner to know how they communicate.

Plan

You need to plan everything ahead. Kids – plan how many you intend to have, finance – what to save for future projects, vacations, where to live etc. The more planning you do together, the more you are involved in  each other. It becomes hard for a partner to leave after building a home.

Read also Kind of Woman You Should Never Marry

“I Love You…”

Never forget to tell your partner I LOVE YOU every time you can. When you wake up, before you sleep, during means. It is a reassuring statement of love to your partner. Say it even if you don’t feel like it. It will save you in rainy days.

Decisions

Make and take decisions together as often as possible. This way, even if your partner is not around you will know what to do in their stead.

Responsibilities

Share responsibilities together. Thought there are some roles that may be automatically taken up, there are yet others that should be done by whoever can do them better for efficiency. Plan to pick the kids up from school when you have them.

Common Ground

Have a common ground for everything you may likely disagree on before those situations come up. Having a common ground means dealing with and taking decisions about critical issues even before they arrive. There should always be a middle ground to come to when you disagree. Let your bedroom be your supreme court to settle issues.

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The kind of Woman You Should Never Marry

kind of woman you should never marry

Marriage is for life so you have to be careful choosing who you hitch to. You have to go for the right person. And the person who fits your person in a  complementing way. It is not an easy choice to make when settling for a life partner always.

But there are ones that you should never marry. There are some strong negative characters some women possess. So you have to avoid them by all means. Run for the hills and not to the alter if you see these traits in the one you are with. Not all of them can be changed or tolerated.

1. The Controlling Manipulator

She is a head user. She can turn your dada to mop the floor. And she also wants you to obey everything she says. She can make you build a house for her parents on loan. If she makes you to do things against your will that may end you in trouble she is a manipulator. They  can make you spoil good relationships in your life.

2. Materialistic Slay Queen

Take-away and shawarma are her favourite. Most likely can’t cook in-house. But she knows how good food tastes and where to order them from. Chief demander and commander of waitress and the maid . She doesn’t know how to do anything and all she may have is beauty. Long nails that can go round wine glasses with flashy eyelashes. Nothing makes her happier than going shopping for expensive shoes, bags, and clothes. Even more happier she is when you are the ATM paying.

3. Immature Lady

She acts like she just wrote jamb and every relationship move with her goes on social media. Any small thing na cry. She may say what she doesn’t mean or go about telling others what happened. Takes almost everything literally. She’s almost not on your level mentally. You feel like asking her to go and have more experience about life before she comes back to you.

4. The ‘User’ Kind of Woman You Should Never Marry

She wan use you leave. Comes round when things are good but the first out the door on rainy days. She can’t stand a day of hardship. May even beg you and promise all the love when  you get back on your feet. She can use you to get to something or someone. In her life you are just a means to an end.

5. Comparative Analyst

Another kind of woman you should never marry is the one that compares you with friends and neighbors. You never measure up to par. She knows who has what and almost mocks you if you fall below her taste. “No be your friends the buy new cars every year? Them get two heads? Be a man.” This one can make you feel worthless.

6. Insecure and Jealous Lover

Anything you do is cheating. She doesn’t even want to see you around your female cousin. She can warn your female boss and even tell you to quit the job as she doesn’t like the way one of your office lady looks at you. Strains to hear every conversation you have. Can do anything to get your phone password so she can read your messages and chats.

7. The Complainer

She regrets ever marrying you and hates the relationship. You may get the feeling that she did you a favour by marrying you. Also hardly appreciates efforts. There is always a “but” even after a praise. The money is never enough for shopping. Nothing is good enough. Not even you.

8. The Monitor-General

“I don’t like all your friends. Change them” Madam they are not spare tyres. She wants to see your last chat and who called you about when she was still in bed. She doesn’t trust you and she tells you to your face. Wants to  know everywhere you are, what you are doing, and who is with you.

9. The Bitter Feminist

She is always talking about how men are scum and are good for nothing. And she can convince other women to disrespect men and question their authority. She is a man in her right and can do better than a man.  She may have had an experience that she doesn’t want to forgive or forget. Then she uses that experience to judge all men. They seem to fight for women rights but how she treats the sales girl or waitress gives her away.

10. The Nagger

Just get ready to buy ear plugs. She can talk loud and quarrel for Africa. You will prefer to sleep on the roof or remain at the club with your boys. The first thing she serves you in the morning is a hot plate of nagging and attitude. If you saw this in your relationship and you go ahead to marry then.

11. The Crafty Liar

Another kind of woman you should never marry in life is the liar. She can lie for Wakanda. She will do and say anything to get you and others to believe her. Ah! She can cry in front of your family and make your mum believe that she is pregnant for you. She calls everyone else liar. But she is the queen of unbelievable lies herself. She will never accept doing something wrong.

You are finished if she has more than three of these traits and you still go ahead to marry her. But if you can tolerate and accommodate her then your choice.

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