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Essential Steps to Take When Finding a Pediatrician

essential steps when finding a pediatrician

There is no more precious a day for parents than the day of your child’s birth.  On day two, however, you start to realize all of the questions you need answered and problems you need solved. One of the most pressing needs to be met is finding a pediatrician for your newborn.

The pediatrician you choose will be a large part of your new family for many years to come, so it is vital that you do your homework and ultimately be comfortable in your choice.

In the first year of your new baby’s life alone, you will be making upwards of six visits to the pediatrician for basic checkups. Plus, you’ll be there for any unexpected visits for their first cold or fever.

With that in mind, here are five great tips to help you in finding the pediatrician that is right for your baby and you.

1.  You cannot do enough research when finding a pediatrician

A great way to start this process is by asking fellow parents about the doctor they use.  Or, if you prefer, you can try an online service to find a pediatrician. Just remember when looking, that while it is essential to find a doctor that has the credentials and reviews that pass your test, it is also important to take into account their location, their hours (including after-hour care), and whether they accept your current insurance.

2.  Examine their experience and their credentials

Pediatricians are doctors that specialize in the care of children from birth to young adulthood.  When looking for a pediatrician, it is advisable to find one that has been trained at a reputable University.

Also, it is essential to find out how long this doctor has been practicing medicine and even the range of practice they have provided.  Has their entire history been in an office setting or have they also worked in environments like hospitals and urgent cares?  Are they currently operating in multiple environments?  It is not at all uncommon for a pediatrician to have regular office hours and also do rounds in a hospital environment for newborns.

3.  Make sure they are up to speed on the latest methods and practices

There may be no field that changes more rapidly than medicine.  When entrusting the health and well being of your newborn to a physician, it is crucial that they are staying current with all of the latest knowledge and practices in the medical field, especially when finding a pediatrician.

You will most likely be searching high and low on the internet for tips, tricks, and advice about how to care for your newborn, so make sure that your pediatrician is someone who has the experience and current understanding of best practices to be able to give you sound advice for the wealth of questions you will most certainly have.

4.  There is no “one-size-fits-all” when it comes to finding a pediatrician

Even when you think you have found a doctor that is current in their practices and has a thorough and comprehensive background of training and experience, there is a chance you may just not get along with that person.  Maybe you feel a crying baby should always be picked up and your potential pediatrician thinks they should sometimes just “cry it out.”  There is more to this decision than just a résumé, so make sure this is someone you feel entirely comfortable with.

5.  What does your newborn think?

If you find someone that you think is a good fit but every time you go for a visit your baby does not seem to “click” with his/her new doctor, take note of that.  If this is something that continues, this may be a sign that it is time to reassess your choice.  This may not be anyone’s fault necessarily, but it is essential that your doctor has a great relationship with both you AND your baby. 

Remember, this is someone your child will be seeing for the next several years so be sure that you feel comfortable with that relationship moving forward.

Also read about Early Child Development.

You can also leave comments and share experiences below on how to help parents find and get a good pediatrician.

Written by Charles Davenport for Senior Planning. Senior Planning is a one-stop shop for senior resources, health resources, and care resources.

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Child Obesity

child obesity

Child obesity is a serious medical condition that affects children and adolescents. Children who are obese are above the normal weight for their age and height. And this is not healthy.

Childhood obesity is troubling because the extra weight often leads children to health problems regardless of their age — diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol.

Many obese children can become obese adults, especially if one or both parents are obese. And it is more likely to be so if they don’t help their child watch it.

Childhood obesity can also lead to poor self-esteem and depression.

Symptoms of Child Obesity

Not all children carrying extra pounds are overweight or obese though. Some children just have bigger-than-average body frames.

And children normally have different amounts of body fat at the various stages of development.

So you might not know just by looking at your child if weight is a health concern.

The body mass index (BMI), which provides a guideline of weight in relation to height, is the accepted measure of overweight and obesity.

Your child’s doctor can help you figure out if your child’s weight could pose health problems by using growth charts, the BMI and, if necessary, other tests.

When to See a Doctor About Child Obesity

If you’re worried that your child is putting on too much weight, talk to your family doctor.

Your child’s doctor will consider your child’s history of growth and development, your family’s weight-for-height history, and where your child lands on the growth charts.

This can help determine if your child’s weight is in an unhealthy range.

Causes of Child Obesity

Lifestyle issues — too little activity and too many calories from food and drinks — are the main contributors to childhood obesity.

But genetic and hormonal factors might play a role as well.

For example, recent research has found that changes in digestive hormones can affect the signals that let you know you’re full.

Risk factors of Obesity

Many factors — usually working in combination — increase your child’s risk of becoming overweight:

  • Diet.
    Regularly eating high-calorie foods, such as fast foods, baked goods and vending machine snacks, can easily cause your child to gain weight.
    Candy and desserts also can cause weight gain, and more and more evidence points to sugary drinks, including fruit juices, as culprits in obesity in some people.
    Kids are prone to eat much more during festive periods like birthdays, Christmas and new year holidays, school breaks, etc
  • Lack of exercise.
    Children who don’t exercise much are more likely to gain weight because they don’t burn as many calories.
    Too much time spent in sedentary activities, such as watching television or playing video games, also contributes to the problem.
  • Family factors.
    If your child comes from a family of overweight people, he or she may be more likely to put on weight.
    This is especially true in an environment where high-calorie foods are always available and physical activity isn’t encouraged.
  • Psychological factors.
    Personal, parental and family stress can increase a child’s risk of obesity.
    Some children overeat to cope with problems or to deal with emotions, such as stress, or to fight boredom. Their parents may have similar tendencies.
  • Socioeconomic factors.
    People in some communities have limited resources and limited access to supermarkets. As a result, they may opt for convenience foods that don’t spoil quickly, such as frozen meals, crackers and cookies.
    In addition, people who live in lower income neighborhoods might not have access to a safe place to exercise.

Complications of Child Obesity

Childhood obesity can have complications for your child’s physical, social and emotional well-being.

Physical Complications:
Type 2 diabetes. This chronic condition affects the way your child’s body uses sugar (glucose). Obesity and a sedentary lifestyle increase the risk of type 2 diabetes.

This cluster of conditions can put your child at risk of heart disease, diabetes or other health problems.

Conditions include high blood pressure, high blood sugar, high triglycerides, low HDL (“good”) cholesterol and excess abdominal fat.

High cholesterol and high blood pressure. A poor diet can cause your child to develop one or both of these conditions. These factors can contribute to the buildup of plaques in the arteries. These plaques can cause arteries to narrow and harden, which can lead to a heart attack or stroke later in life.

Asthma. Children who are overweight or obese might be more likely to have asthma. Sleep disorders. Obstructive sleep apnea is a potentially serious disorder in which a child’s breathing repeatedly stops and starts during sleep. 

Social and Emotional Complications

Low self-esteem and being bullied. Children often tease or bully their overweight peers, who suffer a loss of self-esteem and an increased risk of depression as a result.

Behaviour and learning problems. Overweight children tend to have more anxiety and poorer social skills than normal-weight children do. These problems might lead children who are overweight to act out and disrupt their classrooms at one extreme, or to withdraw socially at the other.

Depression. Low self-esteem can create overwhelming feelings of hopelessness, which can lead to depression in some children who are overweight.

Prevention

One of the best strategies to prevent childhood obesity is to improve the eating and exercise habits of your entire family.

Whether your child is at risk of becoming overweight or currently at a healthy weight, you can take measures to get or keep things on the right track.

Limit your child’s consumption of sugar-sweetened beverages. Provide plenty of fruits and vegetables. Eat meals as a family as often as possible. Limit eating out, especially at fast-food restaurants. Adjust portion sizes appropriately for age. Limit TV and other screen time.

Treating and preventing childhood obesity helps protect your child’s health now and in the future.

Also, be sure your child sees the doctor for child welfare checkups at least once a year. During this visit, the doctor measures your child’s height and weight and calculates his or her BMI. An increase in your child’s BMI or in his or her percentile rank over one year is a possible sign that your child is at risk of becoming overweight.

Being obese is no evidence of good living. And yes obesity can be controlled! Feed your child with the right food and the right amount so they can grow healthy.

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Some IFs of Parenting

IFs of parenting

This piece was said to be written by Tiruvalluvar (a Tamil poet/writer). It’s one of the ancient sciences on Human Behaviour, which has not changed in spite of modern education  & technology!

They usually happen as a result of a parent saying or doing something. Here are some IFs of parenting:

  1. If your children lie to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.
  2. If your children are not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you’ve lost them.
  3. If your children had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.
  4. If your children do not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.
  5. If your children take things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don’t let them chose what they want.
  6. If your children are cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.
  7. If your children do not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking, you order & command them.
  8. If your children are too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour & you give little attention to good behaviour.
  9. If your children are excessively jealous, it is because you congratulate them only when they successfully complete something & not when they improve at something even if they don’t successfully complete it
  10. If your children  intentionally disturb you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.
  11. If your children are openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don’t follow through.
  12. If your child is secretive, it is because they are sure that you would blow things out of proportion.
  13. If your children back-answer to you, it is because they watch you do it to others & think its normal behaviour.
  14. If your children don’t listen to you but listen to others, it is because you are too quick to jump to conclusions.
  15. If your children rebel it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right

One great secret to understanding children is seeing them as individuals separately so as to be able to handle them efficiently.

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Happy International Men’s Day

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First conceived in the February of 1991, the project of International Men’s Day was inaugurated a year later– in February 1992. The project of International Men’s Day was revived in 1999 in the Caribbean islands of Trinidad and Tobago.

Jerome Teelucksing, a doctor from Trinidad and Tobago, chose November 19 to celebrate International Men’s Day in honour of his father’s birthday. International Men’s Day, Dr Teelucksingh believed, is not just a gendered day but an event to address issues relating to men and boys.

This day also aims to celebrate “invisible” men who positively influence their gender, are inspiring role models for boys and try to raise awareness of men’s mental health.

International Men’s Day tries to create a conversation around things like mental health, toxic masculinity and the prevalence of male suicide.

International Men’s Day also explores issues like real-life options, poverty, hunger, homelessness, fatherlessness, parental alienation, mass incarceration, religious and ethnic intolerance which may prevent men and boys from living healthier, purpose-driven, and longer lives.

Who is the real MAN to be celebrated on International Men’s day?

A man is one of the most vital parts of God’s creation.

He sacrifices his dreams for just a smile on his parents’ face.

He spends his entire pocket money on buying gifts for the lady he loves, just to see her smiling.

He sacrifices his full youth for his wife & children by working late at night without any complaint.

He builds their future by taking loans from banks & repaying them for his entire lifetime.

He struggles a lot & still has to bear scolding from his mother, wife and boss.

His life ends up only by compromising for others’ happiness.

If he goes out, he is careless.

If he stays at home, he is lazy.

If he scolds his children, he is a monster.

If he doesn’t scold them, he is an irresponsible man.

If he stops his wife from working, then he is an insecure man.

If he doesn’t stop his wife from working, then he is somebody who lives on his wife’s earnings.

If he listens to mom, he is mama’s boy.

If he listens to his wife, he is, his wife’s slave.

If he does not play he is too serious, stern and stiff.

If he plays, he is a joker who never matures.

If he dresses well, he is extravagant and a possible womanizer. If he doesn’t dress well, he is a loser who is not a gentleman.

Respect every male in your life. You will never know what he has sacrificed for you.

Happy International Men’s day!!!

So, today is a good day to make a difference in this world on International Men’s Day. Be more empathetic and open in understanding gender. Be a man for a day and see what it is like?

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Lessons President Xi Jingping Learnt from His Father

lessons xi jinping learnt from his father

Three powerful lessons Xi Jinping learnt from his father Xi Zhongxun. 

He narrated the story of growing up thus:

As a small child , I was very selfish, always grabbing the best for myself.

Slowly, everyone left me and I had no friends. I didn’t think it was my fault and I criticized others.

But my father gave me 3 sentences to help me in life.

One day, my father cooked 2 bowls of noodles and  put them on the table.
One had an egg on top while the other bowl had none on top.

Then he asked me to choose a bowl of noodles.

Because eggs were hard to come by those days, I chose the bowl with egg!

I was congratulating myself on my wise choice/decision and decided to wallop the egg. To my surprise my father’s bowl of noodles had two eggs at the bottom of his bowl beneath the noodles!

With much regret, I scolded myself for being too hasty in my decision.

My father smiled and taught me the first lesson to remember that, “what your eyes see may not be true.”

He added that, “If you make a habit of taking advantage of people, you will end up losing.”

The next day, my father again cooked 2 bowls of noodles: one bowl with an egg on top and the other bowl with no egg on top.

Again, he asked to choose the bowl I wanted.

This time I felt smarter so I chose the bowl without any egg on top.

Hmmm. To my surprise, there was not even a single egg at the bottom of the bowl!

Again, my father smiled and said to me, “My child, you must not always rely on experiences because sometimes, life can cheat you or play tricks on you“.

Never  be too annoyed or sad with situations. Just treat experience as learning a lesson experience that cannot be gotten from any textbooks.

The third day, my father again cooked 2 bowls of noodles: one bowl with an egg on top and the other with no egg on top.

He asked me to choose the bowl I wanted.

But  this time, I told my father, “Dad, you choose first. You are the head of the family and you contribute the most to the family.

My father was happy to choose for me.

He chose the bowl with one egg on top. But as I ate my bowl of noodles, to my surprise There were two eggs at the bottom of the bowl.

My father smiled at me with love in his eyes, he said “my child, you must remember that when you think for the good of others, good things will always naturally happen to you.”

I always remember these 3 sentences of my father.

Xi Jinping.

So what were the lessons in the story?

  1. What your eyes see may not be true
  2. You must not always rely on experiences because sometimes, life can cheat you or play tricks on you
  3. You must remember that when you think for the good of others, good things will always naturally happen to you.

As a father, mother, guardian, teacher or a child’s caretaker how do you use simple everyday life happenings and activities to teach your ward/child? 

Do you make them memorable? Do you also see to it that they learn the morals of the story/experience? 

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Why Women Live Longer Than Men

women live longer than men

Why does it seem like women live longer than men? Because they actually do! The reason? Males born the same day as women are liable to die earlier than the women. So, how come women live longer than men then?

One early idea was that men work themselves into an early grave. Women don’t work as many hazardous jobs as men do. Whether working in a mine or tilling the land, they don’t put extra stress on their bodies and amass injuries like men.

The life expectancy from birth is still increasing for women as women live about 5% longer than men. As a recent article put it: “This remarkably consistent survival advantage of women compared with men in early life, in late life, and in total life is seen in every country in every year for which reliable birth and death records exist.” Records clearly show the trend.

So how do women live longer than men? Women today still outlive men by about as much as their stay-at-home mothers outlived their office-going fathers a generation ago.
Furthermore, looking at other animals, it turns out that the females of most species live longer than the males. This phenomenon suggests that the explanation for the difference might lie deep in human biology.

Women live longer than men because they tend to have and maintain healthier lifestyles than their male counterparts. They are not heavy drinkers and smokers like men. But even female chimpanzees, gorillas also consistently outlive the males of the group, and we do not see apes – male or female – with cigarettes hanging out of their mouths and beer glasses in their hands.

Instead, it would seem like the answer lies in our evolution more than social and lifestyle factors.

Women menstruate while men do not. And a woman’s heart rate increases during the menstrual cycle, offering the same benefits as moderate exercise. The results in a delayed risk of cardiovascular disease in life.

The DNA known as chromosomes within each cell that come in pairs is another factor. Women have two X chromosomes, men have an X and a Y chromosome.
That difference may subtly alter the way that cells age. Having two X chromosomes, women keep double copies of every gene, meaning they have a spare if one is faulty. Men don’t have that back-up. The result is that more cells may begin to malfunction with time, putting men at greater risk of disease.

Read also Why Men Seem to Die Earlier Than Women

The female sex hormone oestrogen is an “antioxidant”, meaning that it mops up poisonous chemicals that cause cells stress. In animal experiments, females lacking oestrogen tend not to live so long as those who have not been operated on.

Nowadays women outlive men by about five to six years. By age 85 there are roughly six women to every four men. At age 100 the ratio is more than two to one. And by age 122—the current world record for human longevity—the score stands at one-nil in favor of women.

Could it be that women live longer because they play more roles in the cycle of life? In humans, as in most animal species, the state of the female body is very important for the success of reproduction.

The foetus needs to grow inside the mother’s womb, and the infant needs to suckle. The man’s reproductive role, on the other hand, is basically to deposit the seed in the woman and that’s basically it. No wonder a praying mantis eats the male during mating. Oops. Hehehehe. Too bad na woman kill am o.

Women live longer than men because they cry! “A man is not supposed to cry’” they’re told. And then they hold everything in until they implode.

Women don’t think as hard or are they as troubled silently to die with secrets. A man usually holds things inside and hardly shares what is troubling him. A woman is more susceptible to share her troubles and worries. Women talk much more than men about everything.

Women celebrate life. From birthdays to regular occasions and other anniversaries, women remember and celebrate more. Most ladies ask, “Where are we going to?” on the man’s birthday and still ask, “Where are you taking me to?” on her birthday. Men barely celebrate anything.

There are a million Mother’s Day in a year with just one Father’s Day. So many mother songs but hardly any father songs. Sweet Mother I no go forget you for the suffer wey you suffer for me. Nothing for papa.

There are so many other reasons why women live longer than men. You can share and comment in the comment space below.

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Signs of a Man’s Immaturity in Marriage

signs of a man's immaturity in marriage

Marriage is about love, and tolerance. But there are things men  do in marriages that show signs of a man’s immaturity in marriage. A married couple should be complementary to each other for peace to reign. The signs of a man’s immaturity show when he repeatedly does some of these things to the wife in a marriage:

1. Rejecting Food When There’s an Issue

Rejecting your wive’s food is a sign of immaturity in a marriage. Grow up! The only time you should reject food is when it is poisoned. You should not even abandon your home for any reason. You could go somewhere when angry. But ensure that you don’t allow it to linger unnecessarily because that is enough for the devil to build on even though some women can be really troublesome. You bought the food anyway. When you start eating out, you may continue and your wife may think there is another woman. The way your wife gets to your heart is your stomach. Allow her to apologize with her cooking.

2. Reminding your wife that you are the head

Your wife already knows this. Only an inferior-thinking man will tell the wife always that he is the head. When your wife disobeys/ disrespect you she still knows that you are the head. You need not shout or scream it daily. It’s important for you to know when and how to be firm and put your feet down over issues. However don’t become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head. Be the head and you don’t have to remind her.

3. Wife Abuse/Beating

Beating, verbally abusing your wife, issuing threats of divorce or bragging about marrying another wife does not make you a man. An EMPTY barrel makes the loudest noise. Your strength is in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist. When she is acting her “childish woman” part, play the “matured man.” Don’t make her feel bad. Honouring your wife means treating her like a queen even when she may not deserve it.

Other Signs of a Man’s Immaturity in Marriage…

4. Reporting Your Wife to Friends and Family

When your wife offends you, correct and talk things through. You don’t have to tell everyone about her mistakes. That will paint her black and sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back. It will make people disrespect you thinking you can’t run a home and your issues efficiently.

5. Keeping Malice

Is it not funny to know that some men keep malice? Some of them even nag, abuse and call their wives names in public. Don’t let the sun go down without forgiving your spouse for anything you hold against her. It will only make your prayers unanswered.

Read also Why Men Seem to Die Earlier Than Women

6. Not Helping with Chores

The wife is the home builder and keeper. However, it’s not a bad thing if a man lends a helping hand when necessary. Watching football with newspaper in your hand every evening, not caring how stressful the house chores are will only increase the pressure on your wife. And if you truly care you’ll help, just checking on her while busy could encourage and sooth her, this also makes you a good example to the kids especially the boys. Help out with anything you can. Make out time. Some men don’t even say “thank You” to their wives after eating. This may not be one of the signs of a man’s immaturity in marriage if there is already a maid or help who helps out.

7. Cheating

Cheating is another sign of a man’s immaturity in marriage.  Whatever you can get outside you can get inside and even much more for free. The worst part is that many claim that it is in men nature to cheat. Lies! The ability to not cheat is self control. And that is what makes you a man. Don’t cheat on your beloved. She should be your one and only…

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Early Child Development: First 7 Years

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Learning starts for children even before they are born. They can hear you when you talk. Especially the mother carrying them. Their learning happens through the interactions and relationships they have with the important people in their lives especially parents, siblings, grandparents, friends, early childhood tutors, and teachers. This interaction is important for early child development.

Pay attention and respond to the child. Because  you’re creating learning patterns, and all the experiences and interactions that the child has stimulates his brain. These experiences form millions of neurotic connections that build the skills she needs for life. Skills like thinking, communicating, managing emotions, and moving are all learnt this way.

Playing is how children discover, explore and learn about the world around them. Through play, children make friends, build confidence, regulate emotions, and learn and develop many skills like sharing. And when children pick up these new skills, they’re building on everything they’ve learned already. The way children play changes as they get older due to maturity.

Babies love interacting with people and discovering their environment. For babies, the best toy they have is you. Because you can talk and also move. Toddlers and younglings use their imagination to play in creative and dramatic ways, which help them understand their world better. And for school-age children, play is a chance to have fun and unwind from the routines and rules of school.

Exploring through play is very natural for children. Whether your child plays with you, with others, or on his own, your support and encouragement of play is important for his learning. Don’t discourage them from playing as it contributes positively to early child development. The skills your child develops in these early years build a foundation for all the future learning and development he will do throughout life.

Your child’s development and individual differences are shaped by lots of things: his surroundings, family, school, neighbourhood, teachers, and the wider community. It still takes the village to raise the child. And he inherits characteristics from his parents, such as what he looks like, and some aspects of his physical and mental health.

All these and many other factors combine to build up children’s well-being and skills in their early years. Supporting your child to develop warm, nurturing, and empathetic relationships during his early years is important. This helps him interact with others, build and use his skills and independence. They can as well manage and bounce back from day-to-day challenges in their early years of life. Sleep is also an important factor to early child development.

Understanding your child, how he plays, know what he can do on his own, and what he needs support with. This is important to promote their independence and learning and creative problem-solving abilities.

Your child is an amazing learner – a little sponge that soaks up everything it can. The everyday experiences you share with each other all help your child to feel valued, loved, and support their learning and mental development.

The first 7 years of their lives are very critical and they carry over what they have learned over the years into teenage.

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Why Men Seem to Die Earlier Than Women

why men seem to die earlier than women

You may not have noticed or thought about it but it doesn’t just seem so; it is actually so. Men are really dying by the day.

Though women experience higher stress levels and are more prone to depression and anxiety… Women earn less than men, and in many countries. They don’t have the same human rights as men. Despite the social inequality women in the society, they live longer than men. This is a peculiar case all over the world. How come?

Traditionally, the difference in life expectancy between the sexes is usually blamed on the greater and goofier risks taken by men – in terms of accidents, illnesses, and other goofy acts linked to lifestyles that lead to fatal injuries, heart disease, and cancer. High testosterone levels are associated with risk-taking and aggression in younger males and with heart disease and prostate cancer in later life.

The biological advantage that women have has also been that during birth, male-child mortality is higher at birth. And more generally, the genetic difference between the male and female sexes is that women stand a better resistance to biological ageing. Women are found to produce more infection-fighting white blood cells than men of the same age. Another reason why men seem to die earlier too. They can’t withstand the stress internally for too long and let it out effectively.

Other Reasons Why Men Seem to Die Earlier Than Women

Women cry and let it go. Not men or boys. “Big boys don’t cry.” They hold it in until it kills them

Men don’t MENstruate! They don’t lose blood often enough to get refreshed. Losing or donating blood rejuvenates. And since women menstruate they have an edge over men who use same old blood till death.

Men by far outnumber women in some of the riskiest occupations, including military combat, firefighting, and working at like construction sites. The risks and hazards associated with the job is why men seem to die earlier than women.

Men die of heart diseases and attacks more often and at a younger age. This can be attributed in a way to too much thinking.

It is said that men commit suicide more often than women. Well, not black men and especially not Nigerian men.

A man will die several deaths before he goes to the hospital for checkup. Except he is taken in unconscious. Most men keep the health problem of especially prostrate to themselves till it becomes critical. They’d rather die many times than allow a doctor finger their bum checking for a healthy prostate.

Most women are married to men older than them. So naturally, they die before their younger wives. In most cases it better comparatively as the women are better caretakers of the home than men. And honestly, women care for children more than men.

‘Na woman go kill you!’…some have been told. But finally, something kills a man.

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7 Things You Must Teach Your Child as a Parent

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There are certain things you must teach your child as a parent. And having a teenager especially means having a young adult under your care. These are the making or marring years in their lives. It is not easy monitoring or training a child but if you start early in their childhood then it is nothing to worry about.

Children, as they grow, undergo changes physically, emotionally and psychologically especially around puberty. This is evident in their adventurous risk-taking, friends, and actions  to mention but a few.

Here are 7 things you must teach your child as a parent. Teach them:

1. Respect

Teach them to respect you and others around them. If you love your child(-ren) and you want them to live long then teach them to respect you the parents and every other person older than them within and without the house. This is one major secret of long life. To not teach them respect is to cut their lives short.

2. Empathy

Teach them to have a heart. Teach them to have human feelings and show love when necessary. Teach them to give and share with others. It could even start with how they treat a pet. The way the child treats a cat or dog tells a lot about them in this aspect.

3. Confidence!

Kids who don’t act or look confident  kids that get bullied easily. It is easier for bullies to pick on such kids easily than outspoken kids. They should learn to stand for themselves. Tell them to speak up if bullied. Confidence is a key thing among things you teach must teach a child.

4. To Apologize

Teach a child to say I AM SORRY when corrected. It is not just okay to tell them what they have done wrong if it was unintentional. But they should also be taught the right thing to replace the wrong one. If the wrong was done intentionally, then they should also apologize and repent of it.

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5. Appreciation

Equally important, they should learn to appreciate every gesture from parents and anyone who gifts them something no matter how little it may seem. Parents should teach children to be grateful for whatever they are able to provide. Teach them to say THANK YOU from an early age.

6. Shun Cultism and Substance abuse

Get involved in their day to day lives and know who their friends are and what kinds of friends they keep. Most kids and teenagers who do drugs are mostly the ones that don’t have parents who are involved in their lives. Active parenting requires to know what is going on in child(-ren)’s lives and ask questions especially when they are withdrawn or behaving funny. Parents MUST tell their kids to shun cultism and substance abuse and remind them of the consequences.

7. Independence

There is no better thing a parent wants to see like/than seeing their once little baby that needed diaper change hour-on-hour now fending for themselves and even trying to cater for them the parents. It makes parents proud. That is why a father can sit among his friends and beat his chest. And a mother can also gossip in the marketplace about her child who is doing well. Set your children up to fend for themselves because you will not always be around to do everything for them. Teach them to be especially financially independent by learning how to start saving early in life

8. To be Responsible

Lastly, teach them to be responsible both in conduct and  for their actions. From personal dressing to public conduct they have to look and be responsible. Sagging or skimpy dressing and tattoos also make people have reservations about character

Everything parents teach children is a form of training they will grow old with. There are more things you must teach your child as a parent but we picked these 7 to share.

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