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My Hot Tempered Husband: Part 3

my hot tempered husband

The story broke my heart so deeply because I had come a long way with Dayo. Why must it be Dayo?

I wished this never happened. How will I quit a relationship that meant so much to me just like that? If I marry Dayo mama will never be happy with me all the days of her life.

I was really confused as love and hatred battled in the spirit. Who will win this battle, love or hatred? My man whom I love so much is the reason why my only brother could not make it to the hospital.

I had already gone deep with him whose anger sent my brother to his early grave. I am now in between two hard decisions to make – to leave Dayo and please mama or to marry him and displease my loving mother.

For a week, I didn’t pick Dayo’s calls nor return any. He sent me several text messages but I ignored them. I was boiling inside of me for the pain of losing a brother because my man was hot-tempered.

Dayo never gave up on me as he kept calling and sending SMS. A week later I decided to reply to his text message.

“Kemi, how are you today? Just checking on you”.

“I’m fine”, I replied. He was so excited seeing me replying his message after one week. Can I pick you up for a date tonight? He texted.

“6:30 pm,” I replied.

By 5:30 pm he was already waiting at our gate.

He called, “Kemi I am at your gate.”

I checked the time and it was 5:30pm.

“But we agreed for 6:30pm, why are you coming this early,” I queried.

“Don’t bother, take your time, I will be here waiting for you,” he said.

“Who was that?” Mama asked me.

“It’s Dayo, we are having a date.”

“No way, I had told you to leave that boy.”

“But mama that won’t be easy for me. I have not even discussed the story you shared with him yet. Let me go with him and relate the story you shared with me and see how he will react to it.”

Mama kept mute, not saying yes or no. I dressed up and joined Dayo in his car and we headed to a Chinese restaurant.

He placed the order, but I was not interested. 

Food or drink was the last thing on my mind. I needed to confront him with mama’s story and hear him deny or accept. He noticed I wasn’t touching any of the things set on the table.

“Kemi, you’re not eating?”

“Dayo I’m not here to eat, I came here with heavy heart and we need to talk.”

“Is it related to how your mother treated me the last time I came to your house? He asked.

“Yes, the reason why she doesn’t want us to be married.”

“I wouldn’t want this good moment to be affected, can’t we discuss that later?” He pleaded.

I took my bag to walk away when he took me by the hand, “please don’t go. We can discuss it, I am all ears.”

“Can you remember what happened on the 2nd of September, 19xx at about 4pm along Ahmadu Bello Way? A day a young man’s car was bashed by an elderly man and the young man got angry and smashed the old man’s windscreen? Can you remember a day a young man slapped a married woman who came in defence of an old man being harassed by a young man? Can you remember…”

“Stop!” he screamed at me. “Who told you all these?”

“That old man was my late dad, the woman with him was my mother and the boy they were taking to the hospital was my only brother who died just when they arrived at the hospital.”

He was dumbfounded for several seconds while his head was buried down.

To be continued…

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My Hot Tempered Husband: Part 2

my hot tempered husband

“Kemi, you cannot marry that boy, not when I’m alive.” Mama said this in anger.

“But why mama?” I asked her.

“You obviously don’t know that boy you brought home to me” Mama sounded like she knew Dayo before now. Mama, do you know him? I asked mama.

“Whether I know him or not is irrelevant for now, I won’t open my eyes wide and allow my only daughter to marry that boy. Go and tell him to go away with his gifts, I don’t want them. He won’t see my face again before he leaves,” Mama left me in the kitchen for her room.

I followed her, “But mama you have not told me why I cannot marry Dayo.”

“At the right time, I will tell you. But he must go now before I lose my temper.” Mama’s voice began to go up.

So that Dayo won’t hear, I left to join him in the sitting room.

The most difficult thing to do was how to convey mama’s message to Dayo. In between mama’s room and the sitting room I wept bitterly. When I joined Dayo in the sitting room, he was agitated, knowing something was wrong. He looked at my face and held me tightly,

“What is the matter Kemi? Oh, I can guess, mama doesn’t like me right?”

It was a difficult question to answer. My tears became the answer to Dayo’s question. Dayo was bitter. He pleaded with me to let him go. I looked at my love being rejected by my mother as he walked away from me. I was grieved seeing him leav with his gifts.

I went back to mama, “Dayo is gone,” I said and my tears moved mama to tears too.

“Kemi, sit down here,” Mama ordered me to sit at her bedside. “I believe you know I love you and I will never allow you to enter into a marriage that will make you unhappy all your life. That boy is hot-tempered and he will kill you someday in anger,” Mama said.

“But you don’t even know him, how come you know he is hot-tempered?” I asked Mama.

“I know him my daughter. Your father will not forgive me in heaven if I allow you marry this boy. How long have you been together?” Mama asked.

“Two years,” I replied.

“And you don’t know he is hot-tempered?”

I kept mute because that was the only challenge I have with Dayo and I have been praying for him. I have seen him getting angry like thrice and his attitude was heartbreaking. But I could overlook it because I loved him and for the fact that no man is perfect.

“When your father was still alive, Samuel was sick and we were rushing him to the hospital in our car but because your father was under duress just to beat the traffic he mistakenly bashed the car in his front. The damage was minimal, just a scratch on his back bumper. He came out of his car and it was a young man.”

“Your dad came out and begged him, “please I am sorry my son, it was not intentional. I could call my mechanic to come to pick the car to his workshop for a repair.”

All your father’s plea fell on deaf ears as the young man began to rain terrible insults on your father. “You old fool, you think my car is like this your jalopy?”

“Sorry my son, I was rushing your younger brother to the hospital, hence I was in a hurry.”

“Who is my younger brother? To hell with him.”

At this time your dad was angry and asked the boy to do his worse. We were shocked when he went and grabbed an iron rod and broke our windscreen right in the presence of other commuters.

“One woman came out of her car and shouted at the boy, ” ‘how could you do this? Don’t you have elders in your family? ‘ ”

“He became so angry and slapped that woman. When others saw what he did, they all came to take vengeance for us but your father begged them not to take laws into their hands.”

“He entered his car and zoomed off. By the time we got to the hospital, your brother gave up the ghost. If we had got to the hospital earlier, your brother would probably still be alive today. You see why you can’t marry this boy, that is the boy who killed your brother.”

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My Hot Tempered Husband: Part 1

my hot tempered husband

I will never forget my decision on the 13th of April 20xx that led to the journey of bitterness in my life and marriage. I was a very simple and loving girl until I met Dayo. My mother warned me, but I never listened.

I thought I was in love, and love could overrule all shortcomings. I now agree with the adage that says, “what an elder will see while sitting down, a young person may not see even if he is standing on a tall tree”.

On the 13th of April, I brought Dayo to my mother to formally introduce him to her as my fiance. It was a Saturday morning and mother had been expectant since I told her I was bringing a special guest to see her. Her joy knew no bound when I told her of my plan to come home with Dayo. I had described the person of Dayo with mama.

How handsome and cute he was. Mama fell in love with Dayo even before she met him due to all I told mama about Dayo. The preparations for Dayo’s visit was like a woman expecting a king.

Which mother won’t be happy when her daughter is bringing a man of her choice to her; a Christian and a rich guy. Mama ensured she stocked the fridge and freezer with all manner of food and drinks just in preparation for Dayo’s visit.

At a time I was jealous because the preparation was just too much. I never had fear if mama will accept Dayo or not because every woman will like him even at first sight.

The long-awaited Dayo finally showed up. When I opened the door for him, I whispered to his ear, “mama will be happy to see you”. I was impressed with his outfit and I knew that will also impress mama because he was wearing white lace. White was mama’s favourite colour.

He bought many gifts for my mum, so we headed to his car to pick the items before joining mama in the sitting room.

“Mama, here is Dayo, my fiancé” I introduced my awaited man to mama. “Ekaro oko mi, “good morning my husband” my mother greeted Dayo.

“I have been waiting for you since my daughter told me you will be coming. I have prepared all manner of food and I want you to be free because this is your house. Please have your seat,” mama offered Dayo a seat.

“My son, what is your name? Mama asked Dayo. My name is Ekundayo Adeoye, Dayo replied.

Then mama looked at Dayo’s face, “Your name is Dayo? And you want to marry my daughter?”

“Yes mama,” Dayo replied with a smile. “I love her ma, and I will like to marry her” he added.

“That’s okay. Kemi offer him something to drink and join me in the kitchen now.” Mama said and headed to the kitchen. I was very happy that mama is flowing with Dayo.

I offered him orange juice and ran to join mama in the kitchen. When I met mama in the kitchen her countenance was not as good as it was when she left the sitting room. I was shocked seeing on my mum with a frowned face.

“Anything the matter mama?” I asked.

I was shocked with what mama told me in the kitchen.

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International Women’s Day 2019: #BalanceforBetter

International Women's Day 2019

Happy International Women’s Day!

As always, every 8th of March is set aside to celebrate women worldwide. And every year has a theme to mark the celebration.

The theme for International Women’s Day 2019 is: ‘Think equal, build smart, innovate for change‘.

The focus of the theme is on innovative ways in which to advance gender equality and the empowerment of women, particularly in the areas of social protection systems, access to public services and sustainable infrastructure. Of course, this includes women’s innovative contributions to society.

On this day it is customary for men to give the women in their lives – friends, mothers, wives, girlfriends, daughters, colleagues, etc. – small gifts. This is a show of appreciation for their contribution and sacrifice to developing society.

Investing in women and girls is necessary to achieve gender equality. And empowering especially rural women to achieve the goal of ending poverty and hunger is possible.

And this is how the story of fear and terror brought about a smar innovation…

A young mother and her 3 kids woke up to noises outside her window on the ground floor of her residence. She peeps outside and sees 5 terrifying armed robbers wielding big guns.

She was gripped by fear like never before. Her husband was away on a business trip and she couldn’t call him or her brothers who lived 5 minutes away. Not even the police could she call for fear that she would be overheard.

It was way past midnight and she could attract unwanted attention. The entire ordeal lasted for well over an hour!

So after the incident, she decided to invest her time and money into developing a mobile app that anyone can use to discreetly send out distress to close contacts and numbers in case of emergencies.

Marvel Dese Jime is the founder and CEO of the innovative ConstantSee App. We celebrate her for the innovation today to mark the International Women’s Day for 2019.

After downloading and setting up the app properly you can trigger emergencies, share current location, and track in real time.

You can send out silent distress to notify your emergency contacts of your distress and exact location. The app will send an alert and show your exact location so those alerted (up to 10 users)and then they can discreetly track your phone.

This is a great app built for safety and security and is very handy for emergencies. It is also 100% free! Naija Family Blog recognizes this as a smart innovation by a woman as we celebrate International Women’s Day 2019.

You can visit the ConstantSee App website to download the app. It is also available in the Apple store and Google play store to download for free.

Celebrate with your family, friends, and loved ones today. Let each one of us be our brother’s keeper and keep the people we love safe. Gender balance is essential for economies and communities to thrive.

Share and comment about what activities you marked the International Women’s Day with below if you marked it. #BalanceforBetter #IWD2019

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Essential Steps to Take When Finding a Pediatrician

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There is no more precious a day for parents than the day of your child’s birth.  On day two, however, you start to realize all of the questions you need answered and problems you need solved. One of the most pressing needs to be met is finding a pediatrician for your newborn.

The pediatrician you choose will be a large part of your new family for many years to come, so it is vital that you do your homework and ultimately be comfortable in your choice.

In the first year of your new baby’s life alone, you will be making upwards of six visits to the pediatrician for basic checkups. Plus, you’ll be there for any unexpected visits for their first cold or fever.

With that in mind, here are five great tips to help you in finding the pediatrician that is right for your baby and you.

1.  You cannot do enough research when finding a pediatrician

A great way to start this process is by asking fellow parents about the doctor they use.  Or, if you prefer, you can try an online service to find a pediatrician. Just remember when looking, that while it is essential to find a doctor that has the credentials and reviews that pass your test, it is also important to take into account their location, their hours (including after-hour care), and whether they accept your current insurance.

2.  Examine their experience and their credentials

Pediatricians are doctors that specialize in the care of children from birth to young adulthood.  When looking for a pediatrician, it is advisable to find one that has been trained at a reputable University.

Also, it is essential to find out how long this doctor has been practicing medicine and even the range of practice they have provided.  Has their entire history been in an office setting or have they also worked in environments like hospitals and urgent cares?  Are they currently operating in multiple environments?  It is not at all uncommon for a pediatrician to have regular office hours and also do rounds in a hospital environment for newborns.

3.  Make sure they are up to speed on the latest methods and practices

There may be no field that changes more rapidly than medicine.  When entrusting the health and well being of your newborn to a physician, it is crucial that they are staying current with all of the latest knowledge and practices in the medical field, especially when finding a pediatrician.

You will most likely be searching high and low on the internet for tips, tricks, and advice about how to care for your newborn, so make sure that your pediatrician is someone who has the experience and current understanding of best practices to be able to give you sound advice for the wealth of questions you will most certainly have.

4.  There is no “one-size-fits-all” when it comes to finding a pediatrician

Even when you think you have found a doctor that is current in their practices and has a thorough and comprehensive background of training and experience, there is a chance you may just not get along with that person.  Maybe you feel a crying baby should always be picked up and your potential pediatrician thinks they should sometimes just “cry it out.”  There is more to this decision than just a résumé, so make sure this is someone you feel entirely comfortable with.

5.  What does your newborn think?

If you find someone that you think is a good fit but every time you go for a visit your baby does not seem to “click” with his/her new doctor, take note of that.  If this is something that continues, this may be a sign that it is time to reassess your choice.  This may not be anyone’s fault necessarily, but it is essential that your doctor has a great relationship with both you AND your baby. 

Remember, this is someone your child will be seeing for the next several years so be sure that you feel comfortable with that relationship moving forward.

Also read about Early Child Development.

You can also leave comments and share experiences below on how to help parents find and get a good pediatrician.

Written by Charles Davenport for Senior Planning. Senior Planning is a one-stop shop for senior resources, health resources, and care resources.

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21 Tips That Can Save Your Life

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Life is very precious and sacred. You need to guard it will everything you’ve got.
That is why Naija Family Blog is bringing you these 21 tips that can save your life. You never can tell when you’ll need any of them.

1. When Stabbed – Never pull out an object you’ve been stabbed with. It’s actually preventing you from a haemorrhage. Let a doctor or other medical person remove it.

2. Public Place Emergency – If you need urgent help in a public place, do not scream for help. People will think someone else will help you. Instead, call out for help to one specific person.

The bystander effect, is a social psychological phenomenon in which individuals are less likely to offer help to a victim when other people are present. The greater the number of bystanders, the less likely it is that any one of them will help.

3. Airplane – If the plane you’re in has to perform a water landing, you should never inflate your life jacket while you’re in the plane, as it will make you stuck on the ceiling. Get off the plane first, then inflate the jacket.

4. Cooking Gas – If you’re cooking with oil and gas and it catches fire, never try to extinguish it with water. Because of the oil, you’ll instead make the fire bigger. Simply turn off the gas and use something non-flammable to cover the flames. A pot lid, wet cloth, or a wool blanket are useful.

5. During Fires – Stay close to the ground if any building catches fire. Smoke is the first cause of death during a fire as smoke rises. Clearer air for breathing is found close to the ground.

6. In Water – If you find yourself in the ocean, for example, and want to surface, your first instinct will be to paddle as fast as you can. It will exhaust you, and eventually cause you to drown. Instead, just float. Try to tilt your head backwards in water and at the same time bring your feet forward.

7. In Public Centres – Wherever you go, be it a mosque, church, a party, or even a school, make sure you see 3 exits. It can be both easy and hard. Scan the space with your eyes so that even if there’s only one door you’ll find at least three ways out. Find one and stay close to it.

Why? If something bad happens, it may be too late to look for an exit. If you’ve found and memorized them in advance, you’ll be able to move toward one of them almost without thinking.

8. Dogs – If a dog is going to attack you in an open place then, do not run. A dog can catch you in no time( since it is open place). Do not look into its eyes( animals can sense fear).
Do not show your back (showing back is a sign of fear). Grab a stick if possible. Stand straight and be in attack mode. Walk backwards slowly until you are out of attack zone (200 meters is dog’s attack zone).

9. Stalking – If you notice you are being followed, raise your head, and go slowly. People tend to instinctively lower their head and increase their pace when they sense danger.

However, you should do just the contrary: confidently raise your chin, and slow down. Why? When you follow your first instinct, you become prey. Raise your head, and look sideways to see the danger with your peripheral vision.

10. When You Hit an Electric Pole – Suppose you rammed your car into an electric-pole and live current wires on your car then, do not panic. Your car tyres are made up of rubber and will work as an insulator. The metal surface of the car acts as a Faraday cage due to which the electric field inside the car is zero.

Do not step out of the vehicle. If you do so you will complete the circuit between wires and earth and you’ll be fried in no time.

Pick up the floor mats in you car and throw them on the ground where you could reach by jumping.

Make sure you cover maximum area with mats.

Open car door widely( roof top is preferable) then jump onto the mats which you placed earlier.

Make sure you jump with two legs at once (keeping one leg inside may complete circuit).

11. Snake Bites – If you were bitten by a viper/any venomous snake, do not run (the venom will spread faster).

Take a picture of the snake if possible or remember its features (pattern/head shape).

Within the first 2 minutes, more than 95% of the venom will still be around the wound.

Tie your shoelace 3 inches above the wound to slow down the spreading of the venom and loosen the tie for 30 seconds every 10 minutes to avoid necrosis.

Call for help.

12. Fuel – If your car especially the fuel tank were on fire, do not try to douse the fire with water. Water is lighter than petrol and therefore would sink to the bottom of the tank.

The boiling water would produce more heat, which when cannot diffuse, would cause explosion -use dry powder fire extinguisher. Using the incorrect agent can cause the fire to re-ignite.
If the fire cannot be put out within 3 minutes, abandon the car.

13. Car Brakes – You are driving a car and your brakes fail,
Do not say your last prayers in panic and be shouting “Jesus! Jesus!”

Do not kill (turn off) the engine in panic as turning off engine will lock your steering then you can’t change your path to avoid collisions.

Do not change your gear to “neutral”, just decrease the gears sequentially. The car will slow down like wise do with rest of the gears.

Once you have attained impact sustainable speed, try hand brakes. If they failed too, collide your vehicle with a similarly sized, parked car because car fronts are designed to absorb shock (structurally weaker).

And hitting a similarly sized car will distribute the momentum evenly
Else collide it with a tree or pole( make sure you wear seat belt and have air bags).

14. Stairs – Never walk down the stairs with your hands in your pockets. This way if you trip and fall, you’ll not be able to catch yourself.

15. Car Jacking – If a stranger gets in your car forcefully and orders you to take them somewhere, you can drive straight into a pole or a lamp post. This way you’ll render yourself useless to them because

a) the car is damaged and

b) you’ve drawn enough attention by crashing the car.
Sure, you’ll damage your car but you’ll save your life. Ensure your seat belt is on and your car has airbag.

16. Roads – If there are more than 2 routes to your house, try as much as possible to occasionally switch routes and don’t switch in a patterned manner…. This will help you against ambushed kidnapping.

17. Calls – Don’t walk on/by the road when you talk, instead stop and finish your phone call before walking.
You will experience Inattention Blindness (you may be looking at an object but you’ll fail to register it or process what it is).

Walking and talking on a cell phone are two thinking tasks that involve many areas of the brain. Instead of processing both simultaneously, the brain rapidly switches between two cognitive activities.

Cell phone use reduces pedestrian safety. It shuts the world around, makes you blind to danger and is one of the leading causes of death for pedestrians.

18. Accidents – When involved in an accident and a medical rescue team is on site, don’t go about screaming your lungs out “Help me! Help me!”

Make little or no sound as it is a well known fact that the less injured aren’t usually the most vocal in an accident. The silent ones are most times attended to first as it is assumed they are CRITICALLY injured.

19. Sensitive Pictures – Do not take pictures of military vehicles, military personnel or military installations without permission. – Don’t ask me why but you can find out if you want.

20. Foreign – If you are in a foreign country, stay out of political discussions unless you know all of the parties VERY WELL. If pressed for an opinion, then simply state ,truthfully, that you don’t know enough to comment. You will stay alive minding your business.

21. Seat Belt – There is a little, clever device that can prevent death, headache, bleeding, back pain, neck pain, bone fractures, head trauma, brain damage, organ damage, bruises and emergency hospital admittance. And it is in the car.

It’s called a SEAT BELT. Always remember to use it while driving or as a passenger.

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Best Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas for 2019

best valentine's day gift ideas for 2019

Are you feeling a little clueless about how to choose the right Valentine’s Day gift and what it would be? You are not alone…

Picking the best valentine gift for a loved, one as simple as it may sound or look, can actually be tasking. Especially when you are trying to get one before February 14.

Even if you may not personally be marking valentine’s day, the other person may be expecting something. And you better not disappoint.

But not to worry. You are covered on this one. We have put together the possible list of items you can gift a loved one.

Wait!

Before we go on just keep in mid these points to help you decide.

  • You can be with someone but you don’t mark Valentine’s Day. And it’s not a must to show the other person love in their way. But it’s not just about you alone; it’s about them too…
  • Don’t do too much or do too less in trying to get someone a Valentine’s Day gift. Going over the top could scare someone off or pass unintended message(s).

    Doing enough means doing something that the other person may just be expecting or will be positively surprised by. There should be a meaning behind the gift.
  • What is your relationship with the other person? Are you both dating? Is it your father or mother? Do you just want to tell the person you love them in a special kinda way? Or are you just friends?
  • How sweet are you? And don’t even think about thinking to say you forgot. Especially when you are dating. And you better get the other person something that they can brag about (the experience). Because just like their birthday, Valentine’s Day is but once in a year.
  • Make the presentation a special one too. It’s not just the gift given but the way it is given.

When you answer these questions above then go ahead to think of something appropriate.

So, here’s a list of awesome Valentine’s Day gift items we came up with for you:

VALENTINE’S DAY GIFTS IN CATEGORIES:

And yes you could customize gift items and Valentine’s Day cards to make them feel extra special. Plus, you can give some of these gifts regardless of gender.

For Her

Phone rings about 3:30 am on 12th February. It’s John on the line.

“Hey Johnnie, what’s up?”
(Long silence)
I cant sleep…
“Why? What’s the matter?”
I don’t know what to get Tina for Valentine’s Day…

It can be intimidating when it comes to thinking about what to get her.

Whether you’re looking for a compact gift that is packed with feelings, something as fun and playful as a giant teddy bear, or a dramatic present of roses and rose petals all over with a violinist playing in the corner for the woman in your life, we’ve found great Valentine’s Day gifts that are sure to excite her.

And the best part is that you don’t have to break the bank.

  • Scarf –You could get her a scarf of the colour she loves or a red one. Whatever she likes.
  • Shoes   Stilettos, high heels, etc or whatever you have in mind should be comfortable for her and should match something in her collection. Or the wear should match something you intend buying for her.
  • Ball Gown – Red and/or white gowns are killers. It should go with something she already has if she loves the colour you are getting.
  • Perfumes – Eau de parfum, and cologne for women. Something from a collection of a brand she likes will do the job
  • Lip stick – If she uses lip sticks then a red colour or any shade she loves is also a YES to go for.
  • Make up kit – You can get her another set of her current kit if she owns one.
  • Bangles, bracelets, necklace, earrings – Get her any of these jewelries or a set of these if you can afford to. And they better not be tacky.
  • Night Robe – Something she can sleep soundly in and dream about you.
  • A teddy bear with a handwritten love letter isn’t a bad idea either. A letter to tell your sweetheart just how much you care and cherish her and a teddy to cuddle when she misses you. Cool.
  • Chocolate bars and cakes may get her fat. But for today it is an exception. If she is going to take some on her wedding day or already took some on your special day then she can take some more.
  • Flowers – So many sweet flowers have unfortunately died this way all because of love. She will always appreciate them if she is not allergic to them. But they wont last except you are planting a garden.
  • Phone – You could consider buying her a phone if you wish. Some are just great at misplacing phones. Especially around these times. So if her phones goes missing around this period, there you go.
  • The Ultimate Gift – The Ring – If you intend to pop the question on this day then there is no better gift than this!

You mustn’t give these items singularly. You can check out a combination of gifts that go together and give them.

And who says you can’t combine that with a great dinner while presenting the gift(s). It could be the day you pop the question so make the day a smooth one.

Or you could ask another close female what she thinks about a gift you intend buying.

For Him

For women, it’s not easy choosing gifts for men too. And that is why most people have stuck to the tradition of giving men underwear for so long.

Get practical gift items that the man will love. From custom travel accessories that will keep you on his mind and in his heart whenever he’s away, to something he can use/wear while he is around, and anything in between, we will make it easy to find the perfect gift for your man.

Also, be creative about your choice of gift item(s). Try this list:

  • Tuxedo/suit – If you really want to make him feel like he is the man then get him a tuxedo or suit. You cannot misfire when you get a black one of his size that fits!
  • Wristwatch –You can’t miss it with wristwatches. Whether leather strap, chain, or a sporty one. All you have to do is get one that suits his preference.
  • Custom soft robe/towel Adding a personal touch to customize his cozy nights at home by writing his name on the back of that robe will make him feel like Mohammed Ali. Not to talk of when he wraps that towel around or clean himself up with it.
  • Tie(s) – There will always be an occasion to wear a tie even if the man is a t-shirt and jean kind of person. Get him a tie and he will remember you every time he has to wear it.
  • Perfume – Eau de cologne and toilet water are always a yes for a confident man who likes to smell good.
  • Belts –Even if he sags, he will appreciate one of these. And just like a lady can’t have too many shoes, a guy can’t have too many belts.
  • Shoes and socks – Simple wears, loafers, sneakers or leather shoes. You can’t go wrong with them for a man. Nothing too long or too colourful for socks. Just keep it simple if you are getting him a couple. You could even throw in a boxer short here if you are itchy to.
  • Sports gear – He doesn’t have to be a fitness freak or a sportsman before you get him these. Most guys make this their ‘comfy outfit’ at home. And if he’s into jogging or playing sports, get him a canvas, trainers or anything his game requires and watch his face light up as he unboxes his new collection.
  • Packet shirt and Tees – This might be an obvious gift choice but all you have to do is buy his size and it should be the type he likes. Something casual will always be acceptable.
  • Headsets and Speakers – If he loves music, then get him one of these. These can be budget friendly as you can get different types and a guy who loves his music or sports would appreciate these. Wireless ear pods, bass headphones, or quality earpiece is goal.
  • Wallet – This would be a great gift. Especially if he is one to use a wallet for a year. Plus he now has a place to stash some change, his complementary cards, voter’s, ATM, and other identification cards. He’ll love you for it.
  • Cuff links– Like earrings for ladies, so are cuff links to men. He can never have too many of these. Add to his collection. They are small objects that can get lost easily. But give him a pair and he’ll not lose them.
  • Shaving set Even if he is a beard gang member, he would still need to trim some off. If he is a man who likes his face shaven clean, this would be a nice gift. Coconut oil may even make it here. So get some nice clippers if you can.

For Him or Her

The items listed here can be gifted to either him or her:

  • Customised mug/drinking cup Will be very cute especially if you inscribe a romantic message on it. When they sip their warm latte or tea in the morning they will remember you.
  • Books and diaries Are always a collector’s item. Write who it is from and gift them. Can’t go wrong especially when they have been scouting for a copy of the book.
  • Something they can keep on their office desk – clock, pen, pen holder, diary, picture frames etc.

  • Something with their name on it – A cap, a shirt etc

Valentine’s Day Treats

  • A bottle of wine to share together
  • A dinner in a fine restaurant or at home
  • Tickets to go watch a show/movie/act
  • A surprise get-away to anywhere etc. You can get creative with your own list.

It is not only a day of and for lovers… It is also a day to show as much love to the people around you.

Show love, compassion, and appreciation. From a boss to an employee, mother to daughter, and vice versa. You can extend the gesture of love to people you don’t even know.

For Family

For Parents

If your parents (in-law) are alive you can get your dad a bottle of his favourite drink if he is not forbidden to drink it. And maybe a material to sew a simple traditional with.

You can equally get the mothers some wrappers and materials to see her tailor with or get her measurement and get it done for her. How about something for her kitchen?

For Siblings

Get siblings something they’ve always desired.

For Kids

You could get the dude an educational toy, video game, or something to remember you by. Could even be a t-shirt.

You can buy for the girl a dress or a barbie depending on her age. Just be sure it’s something she’d like.

For Friends

Get for your friend something you’d get for yourself…

Universal

Love is a universal language that knows no barriers. You can take it outside your door and still communicate it anywhere.

You can give to those who may never be able to pay you back. And there are always around.

The less privileged, displaced people, migrants, orphans, a new neighbour, widows, people without family etc. Used clothes, food, water, shoes, books etc. Whatever you’ve got can be of use. Share a smile, some hugs and firm handshakes…

THERE ARE NO LIMITS...

Be creative and dynamic enough to really listen and understand the other person you are trying to get a gift for by understand this:

  • There is what you wish to get for them,
  • There is also what they wish to have.

When you can reconcile the two then you can get your loved one(s) the suitable Valentine’s Day gift!

For romantic gift ideas don’t even think about predictable gifts and generic cards. Do something unexpected the next time you celebrate your love. Personalize romantic gifts that will be remembered and cherished for years to come. You can customize gifts to make them more special and meaningful.

You can get them a car, a house, sponsor their wedding, get them a washing machine… There are no limits literally.

If you still don’t have a clue what to get them for valentine’s day then just ask them straight up…

Don’t just talk love; show love. – NaijaFamilyBlog

And there is our list of the best Valentine’s Day gift ideas for 2019.

So how do you intend to celebrate this Valentine’s Day? Do you have any more suggestions you would like to share with us? You can do that in the comments box below.

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Child Obesity

child obesity

Child obesity is a serious medical condition that affects children and adolescents. Children who are obese are above the normal weight for their age and height. And this is not healthy.

Childhood obesity is troubling because the extra weight often leads children to health problems regardless of their age — diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol.

Many obese children can become obese adults, especially if one or both parents are obese. And it is more likely to be so if they don’t help their child watch it.

Childhood obesity can also lead to poor self-esteem and depression.

Symptoms of Child Obesity

Not all children carrying extra pounds are overweight or obese though. Some children just have bigger-than-average body frames.

And children normally have different amounts of body fat at the various stages of development.

So you might not know just by looking at your child if weight is a health concern.

The body mass index (BMI), which provides a guideline of weight in relation to height, is the accepted measure of overweight and obesity.

Your child’s doctor can help you figure out if your child’s weight could pose health problems by using growth charts, the BMI and, if necessary, other tests.

When to See a Doctor About Child Obesity

If you’re worried that your child is putting on too much weight, talk to your family doctor.

Your child’s doctor will consider your child’s history of growth and development, your family’s weight-for-height history, and where your child lands on the growth charts.

This can help determine if your child’s weight is in an unhealthy range.

Causes of Child Obesity

Lifestyle issues — too little activity and too many calories from food and drinks — are the main contributors to childhood obesity.

But genetic and hormonal factors might play a role as well.

For example, recent research has found that changes in digestive hormones can affect the signals that let you know you’re full.

Risk factors of Obesity

Many factors — usually working in combination — increase your child’s risk of becoming overweight:

  • Diet.
    Regularly eating high-calorie foods, such as fast foods, baked goods and vending machine snacks, can easily cause your child to gain weight.
    Candy and desserts also can cause weight gain, and more and more evidence points to sugary drinks, including fruit juices, as culprits in obesity in some people.
    Kids are prone to eat much more during festive periods like birthdays, Christmas and new year holidays, school breaks, etc
  • Lack of exercise.
    Children who don’t exercise much are more likely to gain weight because they don’t burn as many calories.
    Too much time spent in sedentary activities, such as watching television or playing video games, also contributes to the problem.
  • Family factors.
    If your child comes from a family of overweight people, he or she may be more likely to put on weight.
    This is especially true in an environment where high-calorie foods are always available and physical activity isn’t encouraged.
  • Psychological factors.
    Personal, parental and family stress can increase a child’s risk of obesity.
    Some children overeat to cope with problems or to deal with emotions, such as stress, or to fight boredom. Their parents may have similar tendencies.
  • Socioeconomic factors.
    People in some communities have limited resources and limited access to supermarkets. As a result, they may opt for convenience foods that don’t spoil quickly, such as frozen meals, crackers and cookies.
    In addition, people who live in lower income neighborhoods might not have access to a safe place to exercise.

Complications of Child Obesity

Childhood obesity can have complications for your child’s physical, social and emotional well-being.

Physical Complications:
Type 2 diabetes. This chronic condition affects the way your child’s body uses sugar (glucose). Obesity and a sedentary lifestyle increase the risk of type 2 diabetes.

This cluster of conditions can put your child at risk of heart disease, diabetes or other health problems.

Conditions include high blood pressure, high blood sugar, high triglycerides, low HDL (“good”) cholesterol and excess abdominal fat.

High cholesterol and high blood pressure. A poor diet can cause your child to develop one or both of these conditions. These factors can contribute to the buildup of plaques in the arteries. These plaques can cause arteries to narrow and harden, which can lead to a heart attack or stroke later in life.

Asthma. Children who are overweight or obese might be more likely to have asthma. Sleep disorders. Obstructive sleep apnea is a potentially serious disorder in which a child’s breathing repeatedly stops and starts during sleep. 

Social and Emotional Complications

Low self-esteem and being bullied. Children often tease or bully their overweight peers, who suffer a loss of self-esteem and an increased risk of depression as a result.

Behaviour and learning problems. Overweight children tend to have more anxiety and poorer social skills than normal-weight children do. These problems might lead children who are overweight to act out and disrupt their classrooms at one extreme, or to withdraw socially at the other.

Depression. Low self-esteem can create overwhelming feelings of hopelessness, which can lead to depression in some children who are overweight.

Prevention

One of the best strategies to prevent childhood obesity is to improve the eating and exercise habits of your entire family.

Whether your child is at risk of becoming overweight or currently at a healthy weight, you can take measures to get or keep things on the right track.

Limit your child’s consumption of sugar-sweetened beverages. Provide plenty of fruits and vegetables. Eat meals as a family as often as possible. Limit eating out, especially at fast-food restaurants. Adjust portion sizes appropriately for age. Limit TV and other screen time.

Treating and preventing childhood obesity helps protect your child’s health now and in the future.

Also, be sure your child sees the doctor for child welfare checkups at least once a year. During this visit, the doctor measures your child’s height and weight and calculates his or her BMI. An increase in your child’s BMI or in his or her percentile rank over one year is a possible sign that your child is at risk of becoming overweight.

Being obese is no evidence of good living. And yes obesity can be controlled! Feed your child with the right food and the right amount so they can grow healthy.

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When Using the ATM

using the atm

Last week I went to use the ATM.

I got there and looked around, joined the long queue and a young lady came to meet me and asked how much I want to withdraw. and then she told me she over withdrew money.

Some IFs of Parenting

IFs of parenting

This piece was said to be written by Tiruvalluvar (a Tamil poet/writer). It’s one of the ancient sciences on Human Behaviour, which has not changed in spite of modern education  & technology!

They usually happen as a result of a parent saying or doing something. Here are some IFs of parenting:

  1. If your children lie to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.
  2. If your children are not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you’ve lost them.
  3. If your children had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.
  4. If your children do not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.
  5. If your children take things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don’t let them chose what they want.
  6. If your children are cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.
  7. If your children do not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking, you order & command them.
  8. If your children are too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour & you give little attention to good behaviour.
  9. If your children are excessively jealous, it is because you congratulate them only when they successfully complete something & not when they improve at something even if they don’t successfully complete it
  10. If your children  intentionally disturb you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.
  11. If your children are openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don’t follow through.
  12. If your child is secretive, it is because they are sure that you would blow things out of proportion.
  13. If your children back-answer to you, it is because they watch you do it to others & think its normal behaviour.
  14. If your children don’t listen to you but listen to others, it is because you are too quick to jump to conclusions.
  15. If your children rebel it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right

One great secret to understanding children is seeing them as individuals separately so as to be able to handle them efficiently.

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