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Why Women Live Longer Than Men

women live longer than men

Why does it seem like women live longer than men? Because they actually do! The reason? Males born the same day as women are liable to die earlier than the women. So, how come women live longer than men then?

One early idea was that men work themselves into an early grave. Women don’t work as many hazardous jobs as men do. Whether working in a mine or tilling the land, they don’t put extra stress on their bodies and amass injuries like men.

The life expectancy from birth is still increasing for women as women live about 5% longer than men. As a recent article put it: “This remarkably consistent survival advantage of women compared with men in early life, in late life, and in total life is seen in every country in every year for which reliable birth and death records exist.” Records clearly show the trend.

So how do women live longer than men? Women today still outlive men by about as much as their stay-at-home mothers outlived their office-going fathers a generation ago.
Furthermore, looking at other animals, it turns out that the females of most species live longer than the males. This phenomenon suggests that the explanation for the difference might lie deep in human biology.

Women live longer than men because they tend to have and maintain healthier lifestyles than their male counterparts. They are not heavy drinkers and smokers like men. But even female chimpanzees, gorillas also consistently outlive the males of the group, and we do not see apes – male or female – with cigarettes hanging out of their mouths and beer glasses in their hands.

Instead, it would seem like the answer lies in our evolution more than social and lifestyle factors.

Women menstruate while men do not. And a woman’s heart rate increases during the menstrual cycle, offering the same benefits as moderate exercise. The results in a delayed risk of cardiovascular disease in life.

The DNA known as chromosomes within each cell that come in pairs is another factor. Women have two X chromosomes, men have an X and a Y chromosome.
That difference may subtly alter the way that cells age. Having two X chromosomes, women keep double copies of every gene, meaning they have a spare if one is faulty. Men don’t have that back-up. The result is that more cells may begin to malfunction with time, putting men at greater risk of disease.

Read also Why Men Seem to Die Earlier Than Women

The female sex hormone oestrogen is an “antioxidant”, meaning that it mops up poisonous chemicals that cause cells stress. In animal experiments, females lacking oestrogen tend not to live so long as those who have not been operated on.

Nowadays women outlive men by about five to six years. By age 85 there are roughly six women to every four men. At age 100 the ratio is more than two to one. And by age 122—the current world record for human longevity—the score stands at one-nil in favor of women.

Could it be that women live longer because they play more roles in the cycle of life? In humans, as in most animal species, the state of the female body is very important for the success of reproduction.

The foetus needs to grow inside the mother’s womb, and the infant needs to suckle. The man’s reproductive role, on the other hand, is basically to deposit the seed in the woman and that’s basically it. No wonder a praying mantis eats the male during mating. Oops. Hehehehe. Too bad na woman kill am o.

Women live longer than men because they cry! “A man is not supposed to cry’” they’re told. And then they hold everything in until they implode.

Women don’t think as hard or are they as troubled silently to die with secrets. A man usually holds things inside and hardly shares what is troubling him. A woman is more susceptible to share her troubles and worries. Women talk much more than men about everything.

Women celebrate life. From birthdays to regular occasions and other anniversaries, women remember and celebrate more. Most ladies ask, “Where are we going to?” on the man’s birthday and still ask, “Where are you taking me to?” on her birthday. Men barely celebrate anything.

There are a million Mother’s Day in a year with just one Father’s Day. So many mother songs but hardly any father songs. Sweet Mother I no go forget you for the suffer wey you suffer for me. Nothing for papa.

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D’Banj Loses Son

D'Banj loses son

Nigerian singer and international entertainer, D’banj and wife Didi Kilgrow, have lost their only son, Daniel Oyebanjo III. He was reportedly drowned at a private pool in the residence in Ikoyi, Lagos on Sunday afternoon, the 24th of June 2018.

The singer took to his Instagram page to post a black image this evening with caption: “Trying Times. But my God is Always and Forever Faithful”

According to reports the remains of the child has been moved to the mortuary. Our thoughts and prayers are with D’Banj and the entire family.

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7 Things New Couple Should Focus on Early in Marriage

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There are some things new couple need to focus on early in marriage.

Marriage between two lovers is a beautiful thing. It means joining two unique individuals who are in love together to live as one forever. It is way beyond cohabiting under one roof and making babies. One of the major purposes of marriage is for companionship. And that means you have to be available physically, emotionally, and otherwise for your partner always.

Always remember that marriage is for better for worse. So prepare for the good days and not-so-good days. There are some 7 things new couple should focus on early in marriage.

1. Sex: Lots of it.

In fact, this is one reason why some are married. Most marriages end due to sexual issues. Either one person is not getting enough of it, or one person is getting it from someone else. Either way, the number one thing to focus on, as a young married couple, is sex and lots of it. With each other of course. It reinforces the pair bond you have both chosen to initiate. And it is a hell of a lot of fun when done right. Investing time into the emotional and physical components of relationships pay dividends. Sex is not just for making babies.

Communicate

Talk, share, be open, honest, carry the load to together. It’s a partnership. If you don’t get this right, the rest is not going to save you. The reason why most people yell in relationships is because they are emotionally distant. But knowing how to communicate early in marriage will save you a lot of headache. Not all communications are verbal. Plus, you also have to study your partner to know how they communicate.

Plan

You need to plan everything ahead. Kids – plan how many you intend to have, finance – what to save for future projects, vacations, where to live etc. The more planning you do together, the more you are involved in  each other. It becomes hard for a partner to leave after building a home.

Read also Kind of Woman You Should Never Marry

“I Love You…”

Never forget to tell your partner I LOVE YOU every time you can. When you wake up, before you sleep, during means. It is a reassuring statement of love to your partner. Say it even if you don’t feel like it. It will save you in rainy days.

Decisions

Make and take decisions together as often as possible. This way, even if your partner is not around you will know what to do in their stead.

Responsibilities

Share responsibilities together. Thought there are some roles that may be automatically taken up, there are yet others that should be done by whoever can do them better for efficiency. Plan to pick the kids up from school when you have them.

Common Ground

Have a common ground for everything you may likely disagree on before those situations come up. Having a common ground means dealing with and taking decisions about critical issues even before they arrive. There should always be a middle ground to come to when you disagree. Let your bedroom be your supreme court to settle issues.

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Wife Seeks Divorce From Husband Over Drunkenness

wife seeks divorce from husband over drunkenness

A housewife in Abuja begged a Kubwa Grade 1 Area Court to dissolve her marriage. This is due to her husband’s drunkenness, refusal to pray, and battery. So, she wants divorce.

Angyan told the court that she got married to Abdullahi 30 years ago. And the marriage has produced six children. The wife said Abdullahi formed the habit of drinking beer and refuses to perform the five times obligatory Islamic prayers.

She added that her husband also refused to observe the just-concluded Ramadan fast. ‎“Whenever he is drunk, he engages me in physical fight. And beats me up mercilessly,” she said. However, she prayed the court to dissolve her marriage. This is on the grounds of his drunkenness, refusal to pray and constant beating. She wants to divorce him for these reasons.

Abdullahi who is a cleaner in Abuja, pleaded guilty. He said that he would write an undertaking to stop drinking.‎ He also said he would share his salary into two, keep half of it to himself and give the other half to his wife for upkeep.

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The kind of Woman You Should Never Marry

kind of woman you should never marry

Marriage is for life so you have to be careful choosing who you hitch to. You have to go for the right person. And the person who fits your person in a  complementing way. It is not an easy choice to make when settling for a life partner always.

But there are ones that you should never marry. There are some strong negative characters some women possess. So you have to avoid them by all means. Run for the hills and not to the alter if you see these traits in the one you are with. Not all of them can be changed or tolerated.

1. The Controlling Manipulator

She is a head user. She can turn your dada to mop the floor. And she also wants you to obey everything she says. She can make you build a house for her parents on loan. If she makes you to do things against your will that may end you in trouble she is a manipulator. They  can make you spoil good relationships in your life.

2. Materialistic Slay Queen

Take-away and shawarma are her favourite. Most likely can’t cook in-house. But she knows how good food tastes and where to order them from. Chief demander and commander of waitress and the maid . She doesn’t know how to do anything and all she may have is beauty. Long nails that can go round wine glasses with flashy eyelashes. Nothing makes her happier than going shopping for expensive shoes, bags, and clothes. Even more happier she is when you are the ATM paying.

3. Immature Lady

She acts like she just wrote jamb and every relationship move with her goes on social media. Any small thing na cry. She may say what she doesn’t mean or go about telling others what happened. Takes almost everything literally. She’s almost not on your level mentally. You feel like asking her to go and have more experience about life before she comes back to you.

4. The ‘User’ Kind of Woman You Should Never Marry

She wan use you leave. Comes round when things are good but the first out the door on rainy days. She can’t stand a day of hardship. May even beg you and promise all the love when  you get back on your feet. She can use you to get to something or someone. In her life you are just a means to an end.

5. Comparative Analyst

Another kind of woman you should never marry is the one that compares you with friends and neighbors. You never measure up to par. She knows who has what and almost mocks you if you fall below her taste. “No be your friends the buy new cars every year? Them get two heads? Be a man.” This one can make you feel worthless.

6. Insecure and Jealous Lover

Anything you do is cheating. She doesn’t even want to see you around your female cousin. She can warn your female boss and even tell you to quit the job as she doesn’t like the way one of your office lady looks at you. Strains to hear every conversation you have. Can do anything to get your phone password so she can read your messages and chats.

7. The Complainer

She regrets ever marrying you and hates the relationship. You may get the feeling that she did you a favour by marrying you. Also hardly appreciates efforts. There is always a “but” even after a praise. The money is never enough for shopping. Nothing is good enough. Not even you.

8. The Monitor-General

“I don’t like all your friends. Change them” Madam they are not spare tyres. She wants to see your last chat and who called you about when she was still in bed. She doesn’t trust you and she tells you to your face. Wants to  know everywhere you are, what you are doing, and who is with you.

9. The Bitter Feminist

She is always talking about how men are scum and are good for nothing. And she can convince other women to disrespect men and question their authority. She is a man in her right and can do better than a man.  She may have had an experience that she doesn’t want to forgive or forget. Then she uses that experience to judge all men. They seem to fight for women rights but how she treats the sales girl or waitress gives her away.

10. The Nagger

Just get ready to buy ear plugs. She can talk loud and quarrel for Africa. You will prefer to sleep on the roof or remain at the club with your boys. The first thing she serves you in the morning is a hot plate of nagging and attitude. If you saw this in your relationship and you go ahead to marry then.

11. The Crafty Liar

Another kind of woman you should never marry in life is the liar. She can lie for Wakanda. She will do and say anything to get you and others to believe her. Ah! She can cry in front of your family and make your mum believe that she is pregnant for you. She calls everyone else liar. But she is the queen of unbelievable lies herself. She will never accept doing something wrong.

You are finished if she has more than three of these traits and you still go ahead to marry her. But if you can tolerate and accommodate her then your choice.

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Signs of a Man’s Immaturity in Marriage

signs of a man's immaturity in marriage

Marriage is about love, and tolerance. But there are things men  do in marriages that show signs of a man’s immaturity in marriage. A married couple should be complementary to each other for peace to reign. The signs of a man’s immaturity show when he repeatedly does some of these things to the wife in a marriage:

1. Rejecting Food When There’s an Issue

Rejecting your wive’s food is a sign of immaturity in a marriage. Grow up! The only time you should reject food is when it is poisoned. You should not even abandon your home for any reason. You could go somewhere when angry. But ensure that you don’t allow it to linger unnecessarily because that is enough for the devil to build on even though some women can be really troublesome. You bought the food anyway. When you start eating out, you may continue and your wife may think there is another woman. The way your wife gets to your heart is your stomach. Allow her to apologize with her cooking.

2. Reminding your wife that you are the head

Your wife already knows this. Only an inferior-thinking man will tell the wife always that he is the head. When your wife disobeys/ disrespect you she still knows that you are the head. You need not shout or scream it daily. It’s important for you to know when and how to be firm and put your feet down over issues. However don’t become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head. Be the head and you don’t have to remind her.

3. Wife Abuse/Beating

Beating, verbally abusing your wife, issuing threats of divorce or bragging about marrying another wife does not make you a man. An EMPTY barrel makes the loudest noise. Your strength is in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist. When she is acting her “childish woman” part, play the “matured man.” Don’t make her feel bad. Honouring your wife means treating her like a queen even when she may not deserve it.

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4. Reporting Your Wife to Friends and Family

When your wife offends you, correct and talk things through. You don’t have to tell everyone about her mistakes. That will paint her black and sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back. It will make people disrespect you thinking you can’t run a home and your issues efficiently.

5. Keeping Malice

Is it not funny to know that some men keep malice? Some of them even nag, abuse and call their wives names in public. Don’t let the sun go down without forgiving your spouse for anything you hold against her. It will only make your prayers unanswered.

Read also Why Men Seem to Die Earlier Than Women

6. Not Helping with Chores

The wife is the home builder and keeper. However, it’s not a bad thing if a man lends a helping hand when necessary. Watching football with newspaper in your hand every evening, not caring how stressful the house chores are will only increase the pressure on your wife. And if you truly care you’ll help, just checking on her while busy could encourage and sooth her, this also makes you a good example to the kids especially the boys. Help out with anything you can. Make out time. Some men don’t even say “thank You” to their wives after eating. This may not be one of the signs of a man’s immaturity in marriage if there is already a maid or help who helps out.

7. Cheating

Cheating is another sign of a man’s immaturity in marriage.  Whatever you can get outside you can get inside and even much more for free. The worst part is that many claim that it is in men nature to cheat. Lies! The ability to not cheat is self control. And that is what makes you a man. Don’t cheat on your beloved. She should be your one and only…

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